Last night, there were some shouting from the families living next door. I tried to overheard, only to understand, a little teenage girl is bit upset with their parents. And she was accusing them of living in a toxic environment. The term did stunned me a a bit, as the families were alwsys seen to be loving and caring. While bother the parents give special space to their kids. But such words did keep me awake whole night. How could a girl of mere 13-14 raise could accuse their parents with some serious allegation. I understand a toxic relationship that anybody like to have in life. It is a serious threat to peace and harmony in the relation.
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A toxic relationship is an unhealthy relationship that can cause distress or harm to one or both people involved. It can be mentally, emotionally, and sometimes physically damaging. Toxic relationships are characterized by patterns of emotionally harmful behavior, such as constant criticism, manipulation, lack of respect for boundaries, and emotional blackmail. Some signs of a toxic relationship include:
Controlling or manipulative behavior: The toxic partner may try to control all the decisions in the relationship.
Abuse: This can include physical abuse, repeated infidelity, or inappropriate sexual behavior.
Lack of support: The toxic partner may ignore the needs of their partner.
Negative communication: The toxic partner may use constant criticism, belittling, gaslighting, or denial of reality.
Emotional manipulation: The toxic partner may try to keep your self-esteem low so you don't challenge their control.
Persistent unhappiness: You may feel consistently unhappy and drained.
Changes in your mental health: You may experience negative shifts in your mental health, personality, or self-esteem.
Isolation: You may be isolated from friends and family.
The night drama, prompted me to know the reason. I sometimes get too personal, but it is imporrsnt to understand the reason to avoid such scenarios in real life. I went ahead, to meet the father. Being in a good friendly I manage to convince him to share the night ordeals. He said that, he tried to make her understand the right and wrong things in life. Only to end up with the argument. The girl in her teenage, is yet to be matured to understand some family basics, which were forced on her. On to which she get bit agitated and started shouting and accusing of the toxicity at home.
Teen-age
It is importsnt to understand that the teenage age is very crucial in life. Especially when it comes to girls. It is a critical stage of life because of the many changes that occur during this time. The brain is reshaped and reconstructed due to hormonal changes, current experiences, and an undeveloped emotional part of the brain. These changes contribute to working memory, mental flexibility, and self-control. Teens are trying to figure out who they are apart from their family. They look for affirmation from peers and significance in sports, grades, beauty, and achievements.
This is also a testing phase for parents. As all the patience and strength are tested. They cannot force everything on the growing kids. They need to be handled carefully else they may create nuissance. Like what happened to my neighbour.
Handling the toxic relation
Definitely the situationnis very critical, considering the friendly neighbours were dealing with their kids, who is in critical phase of life. I think my friend did not applied the right approach to convey their message to their kid. Now as the situation worsen, it is important to handle the case carefully. There are certai things which we can do to overcome a toxic relationship:
Clearly communicate your boundaries, which may include your mental and physical space.
Be compassionate and create a sense of understanding with ourself and others.
Let go of the past and have a clear vision for the future.
In general acenarios, If we think we might be in a toxic relationship, we can seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or professional. If we want to leave a toxic relationship, we can plan to have somewhere safe to stay and have a support network of people around us. But in case where it matters about our family, we needs to understand the gap that was created and try to mend our way.
I had a deep conversation with my neighbours and assure him, that if needed I can pitch to talk to her kid. In the meantime he was veey relaxed talking to me. Atleast I did my best to calm him down to tackle his family issue.
Peace!!
Namaste @steemflow
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