Hello beautiful people...
Never expect so much. If there are no expectations, disappointments can not happen. However, you must maintain a healthy level of standard to show that this is what you want and what you deserve, go above and beyond to show what you can do and that is what you will appreciate.
Promise less than you can deliver. Then over deliver. It puts you in a position to receive praise and then when you go over and beyond, you set yourself up for a beautiful reward because every good turn really deserves another. Make it a habit to make promises with a level head, that puts you at the level where people do not have too much expectations from you and then you deliver something spectacular and you blow everybody away. It becomes an amazing result at the end of the day
Try showing up in people's functions intermittently. Don't always be missing in action in people's lives. You are not and will never be an island, you need people just as much as they need you. It is true that they may not notice if you aren't there but they will notice when you are there. Your presence is significant, don't joke with your value and what your presence conveys that you care, you actually hold them in high esteem and at the end of the day, you have paved a path for reciprocity.
Do not take people for granted. They soon notice and unconsciously fight back, or leave. You'd wonder if this is the same person who honoured you so much. The trick here is to always stay humble and respectful and many times, you can take people for granted without realising that is what you are doing. It may not really be your fault as life is complex and the reason you are taking them for granted may not be immediately apparent, so when you stay in the mode of honoring and appreciating people, you avoid that.
Call, chat, text just to check up once in a while. If you make your phone only a receiver or billing machine, you will loose people. It is always better to be the one giving, give your time, resources, your effort, give, because it is much better than to be at the receiving end.
SourceLift up the people in your life in prayers whenever you remember. Life is spiritual. Everything about life happens in the spiritual realm way before it steps foot in the physical realm and this is key because as you know nothing is ever just ordinary and this doesn't mean you should spiritualize everything however, you should remain in a state of epistemic ambivalence.
If you can, give gifts of time, service, and resources, from time to time. Bring value to the table. There is no need to overemphasize this point but you should be aware that if you do not do this, you may as well forget about creating any new relationships or sustaining existing relationships.
Celebrate successes. It shows you don't envy them and you wish them well. That you genuinely love their progress. Another important reason to do this is to stay grateful for what you have and where you are and that is what makes you contented but not stagnant.
Mourn with them when they mourn. Comfort during mourning is more valued than dancing during celebration. Learn to stay still in times like this and learn not to speak when it is not needed.
Honour the people you regard even in their absence. Aside that you are simply being true, you never know who is listening. Walls may actually not have ears, but people behind walls have ears.
