"Make money not friends"
I've seen this expression online and in most places, even I've heard it being said.
The idea of money being more important than friendship is often a reflection of how the world has really changed and how society now views the role of wealth versus relationships.
They believe that money provides security, opportunities and access to resources that are essential for survival. While this may not be so wrong but putting money ahead of relationship is really wrong. They believe that money is what supports and sustains relationships. But what good is wealth without meaningful connections to share it with?
Personally I've had this experience, I had a friend who always talked about money and viewed it as priority.
"If I had money my ex wouldn't have left me, if I had money I could have this, if I had money I could have that, I know if I was rich you would even ask me to marry you".
At first, I sympathized with him because I understood the struggles that come with financial limitations. But over time, his obsession with money became irritating. It was as if his entire identity and sense of worth were tied to wealth, leaving little room for valuing relationships.
When he eventually asked me out, I declined—not because of his financial situation, but because I realized we had fundamentally different values. To him, money seemed like the foundation for everything, including love and friendship. To me, relationships should be built on trust, understanding, and genuine connection, not the size of a bank account.
Long story short, As a minimalist , connection means focusing on real and meaningful relationships, interactions a.d experiences rather than material possessions. There's nothing wrong with having money but pursuing money and neglecting friendship is wrong.
Connection as a minimalist also means prioritizing depth over quantity, being truly present with the people and activities that truly matters.
It's also involves cultivating simplicity and building harmony with nature. Connection extends to self-awareness, aligning with values, and fostering genuine bonds that enrich life.
I believe that a true friend will support his friend emotionally, meaningful relationship brings support and a sense of belonging that money itself cannot buy. Friendship endures trials and hardship which involves financial struggles.
So the saying "Make money, not friends" depicts a misguided view of life. Money should never come at the cost of a meaningful relationship. Besides if money eventually runs out, it is those people who truly cares that'll still be there to offer love and support.
It is important to strive for balance instead of chasing wealth at all cost. Building connections that bring joy and fulfillment while also working towards financial stability. After all, there's more to life than just what's in the wallet, it's more about the people who make our journey worthwhile.
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