I’ve been awfully quiet today because for the very first time, I witnessed someone I truly care about make a terrible decision in life. I could have said something to prevent it from happening but I just stood there and watched her choose the wrong thing. I’m not calling myself experienced of any sort but one thing I’ve always known is to never settle for less no matter what.
About a year ago, I was in the same situation. Today felt like a flashback in a different environment. The opportunity which presented itself to me was very shiny, yet conditional. The conditions that came with it were against my morals and everything I ever believed in. Honestly, I was desperate but I didn’t need any prophet to tell me I was looking at a wolf in a sheep’s clothing. I decided to let it go and wait for something better.
I understand that sometimes, waiting is very hard and it almost feels as if time is running out. Especially when there is no sign of you getting what you want. During those times, you get desperate and jump into whatever comes your way. If there’s anything I’ve learned about opportunities, they are all doors but some doors only open to your doom.
A lot of people have made mysterious calendars for their lives. If I’m not here or there by age 30, I’ve failed. If I don’t get this by age this…. Funny part is, most people make these calendars based on what they see, forgetting not everything they see is actually as it is.
In the end, when their plan is not going as expected, they really don’t mind walking into certain doors to mark things off their calendars and in doing so, they settle for less. And no, less isn’t always literally less. Less could be something against your morals. Less could be something that makes you hate yourself. Less could be something that goes against your existence.
I’m a little sad that my friend is going to learn the hard way. I wish I could rewind back time and let her see beyond her desperation what she was doing wrong. Anytime you are in a situation where you feel like settling for less or just anything that comes your way, remember the patient dog eats the fattest bone isn’t just something they say. Truly, there are many fruits that can be reaped from being patient and on top of that list is you getting what you deserve.
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