Toxic relationship is a death warrant as far as I am concerned. I keep asking same question over again to people who stay in a relationship that is life threatening. Especially in marriage. But most of the answers that I get never satisfies me. Maybe you should help me.
Welcome back dear friends. I'm not taken your constant visit to my blog for granted. Happy new year once again. I love you guys.
Moving straight ahead into the topic of the day for this week I know that it is somehow a complex because even when you ask someone who is in a relationship that is toxic, that person will still have a good reason to remain there. I can't be there and I don't advice anyone to be there because I can't sacrifice my life for the sake of love. Yes. I mean that and I have no apology for saying that. Sorry if that did not go well with you. But that is just my stand on any relationship that is toxic.
I know of a lady who died because she refused to walk out of a relationship that was life threatening. The husband kept beating her up for a little mistake that can just be waved. Each time that happened she will give an excuse for him saying that he will change. He never did. He kept moving from bad to worse. This continued and the lady refused to walk away until one faithful day that she spent his money without his approval. When he saw that alert, he rushed home with that anger and begin to ask her what she did with his money. She gently said that she needed to make her hair and he was not picking his call, so, she went on to withdraw #10,000 from their joint account and paid the hair dresser. That was how my sister went to be with her God. He couldn't allow her to finish this explanation when he landed her slap and she fail down. He thought she was just joking or pretending so that he won't hit her again. He walked out of the house with that anger. He refused to come back home that night so as to punish her for what she did. He came back the following morning to meet his darling wife still on the floor where she fail yesterday when he hit her. By this time the body is already cold and his eyes cleared. She dead not because she didn't see the signs. She dead because she refused to pay attention to the signs that she saw earlier when he started hitting her.
We have lots of stories like that. Some it happened to men and some to women. Most of them stay back because of love. I remember seeing one last year in one TV station. When I saw it I also cried myself out. He husband beat her until her hands went off. She was left in the hospital without a hand and her mother attest to the fact that it was not the first time the husband was hitting her daughter but she kept telling the lady to endure it that the man will change. He went to jail for what he did, but going to jail will not bring back the right hand of his wife that he cut off while bitting her.
MY HUMBLE OPINION
I know that love is real, but we should sometimes look beyond love and take care of ourselves. If any relationship is getting toxic, be it marriage or friendship. No need to be there. That love died the very moment your partner raised his or her hands and touch you violently. You don't allow that. If you already have children in the marriage, stay alive for the sake of your children.nif you die for love, what happens to your children? They will suffer in the hands of an abusive father or mother. Take care of yourself. Don't throw your life away all in the name of love. be okay and happy new month.
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