There is this common saying that says "20 children can't play for 20 years". While I was young whenever this particular proverb was being said in my local dialect I do laugh because I didn't really understand what it meant, but as soon as I grew older I got to understand the meaning of the proverb.
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Many a times, we've been in a relationship where we wish it never ended the way it ended. But the more we grow we get to understand that life is in phases and the more we grow we get to meet people of like minds.
I remember while I was in secondary school, I had a set of friends, we are four and we do things together. We were so close that people called us "Four jolly friends". We got so close that we don't hide any secret from each other. We sit in class together, read together, and even eat together.
In fact, my parent knows all my friends because they do come to visit me at home, in fact, most times they do sleepover at my place. We are more closer than just any mere friend but we are like sisters.
Our friendship was just like that till we finished our secondary school. After secondary school, we all were seeking admission at that point and life started tearing our friendship apart.
I was lucky enough to gain admission into a tertiary institution. The day I was offered admission into a tertiary university, I was so excited that I couldn't wait to share the good news with them. I call them out of joy to inform them about the good news. I was amazed at their response to the good news they acted so cold instead of rejoicing about the good news. I was so disappointed and I thought possibly I had wronged them.
This attitude of theirs continued till I went to school, they stopped calling while I was the one calling to check on them frequently. I was expecting them to check on me as I do check on them but the opposite was the case, then I stopped calling them as well. Even during holidays, I stopped checking on them.
As I grow older, I do feel I shouldn't have stopped checking on them, I understand they might be facing challenges that are not known to me at that point in time and if I was consistent with calling and checking on them, our friendship won't have ended in such way.
The painful part is that if I come across any one of them, we act like strangers, no one can believe we've been friends before and this always hurts me more. A typical example was when one of them gain admission into the same university I was, i wasn't aware, i just saw her suddenly at the student affairs building on that fateful day, i was expecting her to greet me first, but she didnt, so i decided to snubbed her and acted as if i don't know her. Although, i later regretted my actions that day, i wished i could have greeted her first without expecting her to be the one to greet me first. I wish I have acted maturely and never to have stop checking on them possibly our friendship won't ended in such a way.
