I woke up early today which is not my usual routine lately since the beginning of this year. Second year now where I have stopped working and just living in the Philippines. The plan was to stay here for a year and just have a long holiday then I changed that and decided to leave what I had in Australia and move here for good.
I had packed all my things or at least most of my things in a shipping container three years ago when I got divorced. It was an amicable split, of course when I look back now I am finding my used to be other half doesn't seem to like what I have decided with my life. I think she expected me to still work and be there to support her and the kids.
I was going to do that. I really did. I just wanted a little time to myself to see who and what I am after 20 plus years of being focused on the both of us and the kids. I didn't expect to find myself wanting to have a sea change, that is what I think it is called.
The first month I got back from Australia, I had to quit my job, ship my container and take a few more of my things back with me, she started harping on about how will she get her child support for our youngest daughter. She is 13 years old. I told I will give what I can when I can but since I have no more work and are not earning any income I will have give what I can. She insisted that I should then use the money she paid me out for our house to pay her for her costs, of course when we were discussing our decision she made it out like she is an independent woman who does not need me for anything and therefore does not see value in me, well I guess that lasted as quickly as she saw I was now living a very contented life without her. Spiteful comes to mind.
How dare I have the capacity to leave the rat race and now have to put up with all the costs associated with raising kids and other things she things they need, yes, of course I sound very brutal to think I should not have responsibilities but heck she made it out like she don't need nothing from me to have a life with her and the kids. Her priorities were just the three of them and I was not included, her words not mine.
So now here I am just finishing my breakfast with nothing to do the whole day other than to rest from my workout and see what I will end up doing today A no plan planned day.
Child support did get involved so I am paying what the government department calculated I should have to pay even without an income. It's fair. When they don't calculate with an income that is non existent. I used to work in that department 20 years ago so I have an idea on how things work. Bar of course a few changes made to the law, spurred on by fathers killing themselves over unfair laws tailored towards a woman oriented decision that doesn't reflect reality.
That's me digressing.
Well I best leave this little brain fart now since I think I will go for a walk to the Mercado and drink those chocolate drink they call sekwati here in the Philippines.
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