Good morning to the people of the HIVE
Today I am here with an interesting topic to talk about and this is something I just recently learned about and this has me fascinated. The theory is about Pursuer and Distancer and in this it is suggested that in a relationship wether it is a friendly relationship or a Romantic Relationship or just Casual Relationships you will always find two types of people one which is a Pursuer and the other is a Distancer.
So what is a Pursuer?
A Purseur is a person who always tries to sort out any issue they might have in their Relationship as soon as possible with logical thinking and creative approach and they are the type of person who just can’t stay still while they have an ongoing issue going on. Coincidentally I definitely fall into this criteria as I am person who always likes to talk things out instead of keeping things bottled up inside.
What is a Distancer?
Distancer is kind of the opposite of a Pursuer who tries to just let things pass by with time and hopes for the best outcome and at the same time it can also be said that a Distancer likes to cool things up before progressing in any arguments and by doing this they ensure that both parties are not in a heated state and can properly work things out between them.
The reason this theory really resonated with me is because I am a Pursuer while my Wife is a definite Distancer and I literally watched this theory unfold in front of us a couple days ago.
So are you a PURSUER or a DISTANCER?
