I have been hard on myself off late because of how little I think of myself. I feel there's more to me than what I am right now. This feeling lead me into comparing my life with that of my childhood friends, colleague, and even my old school mate. I feel bad most times seeing how much they have accomplished to myself, it felt was if the whole world is against me. Just when I think am making progress, the more things gets difficult for me.
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I had to take a break off instagram and facebook for my heart sake. Many believe that most things people post on social media aren't real but in a way, we somehow believe what we get to see.
While complaining to my colleague some time ago about how my life is going, he said something interesting that has changed my whole perspective about life. He said to me "Betty understand the fact that you are not the same with everyone else. You are unique and your life's journey has nothing to do with the other person. Always be grateful for your current stage in life and stop complaining about everything. Instead speak what you want to see in your life"
While we were still discussing, he told me a story of how had applied for more than hundred jobs, about eighty interviews and only three companies contacted him for a job. He then asked me "how many jobs have you applied for so far?"
Just then I realized how blessed I am. My current Job is the first job I applied for after graduating from school and I got the job without any stress.
It's so funny how I was comparing my progress with that of my boss forgetting the fact that my boss has more than 10 years of working experience while I am just starting. I realized I have been putting unnecessary pressure on myself for no reason.
My Daily Habits
Every morning after my prayers, I look myself in the mirror and speak these words to myself. They became my mantra.
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I am blessed
I am good at everything I do
I am the best version of myself
I am confident, bold and smart
I am making progress today
I am always happy.
I refused to be sad, ungrateful and depressed. For I am the best thing that would ever happen to anyone.
These words have made me feel so confident about myself. I am no longer that timid girl who is always threatened by the success of others. I am now aware of the fact that a city is not built in a day so gradually, everything will be just perfect.
Secondly, Instead of complaining at the things I could not do. I celebrate the little things I could achieve.
That same colleague of mine said to me "Instead of blaming yourself for coming late to work, say to yourself instead: At least I made it to work strong and sound today. Tomorrow would be better." That sounded so stupid but then after trying it for a few times, I realised that it worked. So I tried to come early the next day because I said I would and I did. Indeed there's power in our words.
Life itself is not that difficult. We need to stop putting pressure on ourselves and enjoy every moment.
This is me telling you right now that you are the best thing that can ever happen to anyone. Love yourself and be kind to yourself.
Remember you are the last of your kind alive.
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