Speak Up: Stop The Cycle of Bullying

Have you been bullied? Or have you bullied someone?

I don't know why but ever since young I have been bullied multiple times at school. Maybe because I was an introvert who keeps to myself whenever I'm school and only speak when I'm spoken to.

But as years passed by I learned how to deal with the bullies. And most of the time it's just to ignore them. Don't give them the pleasure of seeing your reactions that their actually affect you. And more often, I just don't care.

But then there are times when enough is enough and I have to speak up.

And so this incident I would share to you happened in 2016, about one and half year after I graduated college. Surprisingly the culprits were my classmates and supposedly friends. Those people who invited me in their birthdays and family gatherings. Those people whom I went to out of towns and share some happy moments.

The bullying came out in the open unexpectedly. It was by mere accident. You see one of the culprits' messenger account was hacked by and ex-girlfriend. Then that ex found a group chat with my other classmates and it wasn't just a normal group chat. It was a group chat to bully people. That triggered the ex to find those people they were stabbing in their backs.

I am one of those people they were thrash talking about. But it wasn't me who the ex found but my best friend because it also has nasty comments about her in their chats. Then my bestfriend contacted me and sent me dozens of screenshots from the conversations.

I was having a very epic day that morning. I went home around 2am because of things at work and need to be in the office at 6am. The screenshots were the first thing I saw waking up and it pissed me to tye bone. So I acted on impulse and posted the screenshots on facebook and tagged everyone of the culprits.

So, they called me a 'fuckgirl' because I posted an update on my relationship status on facebook. I had a boyfriend before that guy but we broke up months ago. I didn't post anything about the break up in social media. I don't usually post romantic stuffs on social media. So basically they don't know a thing. And yet they came up with such assumptions. Plus they dragged the names of my other friends here. And those two didn't have anyone romantically that time. Ow well...

And they also made fun of how I looked and even cropped pictures from posts in facebook and used it as their group chat photos. They also made fun of my typos in every posts that I posted.

And this also one girl that they made fun. If you look closely above on the first three photos. Ypu would see that their name includes Zaira. Thats because above photo is Zaira. And their group chat was named Zaira emoji poop. How shitty that was, right?

And this screenshots I posted here were just the most menial of all them. There were others that talked sensitive stuffs. And others that include more of our classmates.

When my post was seen by one of the culprits, he got mad at me. He said sorry at first but when I didn't responded to him he sprouted nonsense to me. Saying it wasn't my right to pry on their private talks. And it wasn't my right to post something they have been talking in private to social media. Was he right? So if in private they could just mock and bully people?

And he demanded that I take the post down, why? Because people in their work are calling them names for being a bully. They deserve every ounce of it, right? When one of them got called by the HR it wasn't my bad but them.

And it was the same group of people that were supposed to be expelled on our fifth year because of bullying a classmate of ours. But that classmate forgave them. I was thinking he shouldn't have forgiven them.

These people are those people that needed to be punished for their actions. They must realized that what they were doing wasn't right.

Discipline is doing the right thing at the right time with or without anybody watching. That's the first thing my GMRC teacher taught us in first grade and it left a mark in my head. Maybe it was different dor them.

So if you are being bullied, please talking. Find someone that will listen to you. Stop the cycle of bullying.