Maybe I have a very different and awkward opinion when it comes to analyzing good and bad sex. I believe that what many people consider good sex—the kind often displayed in porn—is far from it. I’ve seen many clips and read numerous stories, and the way they portray sex, which many people try to imitate, is weird and doesn’t represent what good sex should be. Their rating is largely based on how fast and rough it goes, completely ignoring the smooth, slow, and emotionally connected aspects that truly define good sex.
In my neighborhood, if you ask the youth what good sex is, their minds will immediately jump to how rough and hard a guy can thrust without stopping, and how the woman can endure it. This is why many guys go around buying sex-enhancing drugs just to keep up. If a woman who is used to that kind of experience meets a man who prefers a sensual and slow approach, she might label it as bad sex.
So, what am I saying?
Bad sex is the pornstar kind of sex, where the focus is on performance and appearing like a machine.
Good sex, on the other hand, isn’t rushed. It starts with good foreplay, gradual kissing, and even if there’s a sense of urgency due to adrenaline, it doesn’t immediately rush into penetration like people racing against a clock. Good sex is about making love. There’s a spark of emotion attached to it, and every moment strengthens the bond between the partners. In my country, it’s often said that sex bonds souls together, and I believe this refers to the type of sex that flows naturally and is filled with genuine connection.
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This for weekend-engagement prompt.
Photo is mine