COLORISM -- My Opinion and Firsthand Experience

in #hive-1962332 years ago

I try very hard to steer clear of controversial topics, but if we shy away from talking about these things, then who will talk about them?

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In the Beginning,

Biases and discrimination come in many forms - from systemic and structural biases to institutionalized biases and beyond. Some common examples include racism, tribalism, and misogyny.

However, colorism is one topic that gets talked about the least. Although, it has recently crept its way to the spotlight slowly, and I am glad people are talking more about it now. It is one topic I have always wanted to write and rant about.

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Hear me out😌

Black immigrants often share their unique experiences of being black immigrants in the West. Many of them report not realizing they were black until they arrived in Western countries, which sheds light on the pervasiveness of racism. While colorism is a related issue, it differs slightly in its manifestations.

Certainly,you are aware of your own skin shade, but sometimes people just can't resist piping up and implying that being far from dark is the way to go when it comes to beauty standards.

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I really did not pay attention to colorism as a child. But growing up and looking back, as a dark skinned girl. I can't explain how I did not lose confidence in my beauty.

I really debated writing about this, because I thought I wouldn't want anyone to tell me that I am projecting my insecurity. In fact, if I were to list my insecurities, not a single physical attribute, including my skin color - would make the cut. (Someone actually accused me of projecting once in a conversation, but they were way off base.)

I have a projection:

Colorism is a manifestation of internalised white supremacy.

Perhaps our internalized white supremacy is as result of the historical notion that white skin is superior. At its core, colorism is rooted in the concept of white supremacy, which asserts that whiteness is the standard of beauty, intelligence, and overall worth. I believe this has led to the devaluation and marginalization of individuals with darker skin tones - a phenomenon that is pervasive not only in Western societies, but even in many cultures around the world, including Nigeria.

Firsthand Experience

  • It's frustrating that when I search for anything on the internet that requires images of people, such as clothing or hairstyles, or even when I search for something specific like "red scratch on my stomach", google presents me with images of stomach of lighter-skinned individuals.
    It's a stark reminder of the prevalence of colorism and the way it seeps into every aspect of our lives

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  • I was chatting with a friend the other day, and out of the blue, she started talking about how lucky she was to have a great body. Apparently, she thinks her dark skin tone isn't attractive, and the only reason guys pay her any attention is because of her curves. I mean, this girl is smart as a whip, so it was pretty disappointing to hear her put herself down like that. But it just goes to show how deep-seated colorism can be, even for the brightest bulbs among us.

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  • Many girls, including close friends, use skin lightening products to maintain a lighter skin tone. When their skin darkens, they feel less attractive. It's a sad reality that lighter skin is often seen as more desirable, even at the expense of health and self-esteem.

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  • In industries such as fashion, movies, and showbiz, the definition of beauty is largely shaped by societal norms and consumer preferences. Unfortunately, this often means that individuals with lighter skin tones are perceived as more attractive and are given preference for roles or opportunities. This is a reflection of a larger social construct that values Eurocentric features and places lighter skin tones on a pedestal. It's important to acknowledge and challenge these biases and strive towards greater inclusivity and diversity in all aspects of society.

Now,

I could go on and on, ranting, and trying to create more awareness surrounding colorism. However, until we acknowledge it's existence and begin to make active efforts towards inclusivity and diversity, colorism won't stop being an issue.

In conclusion, I would like to end this writing with a couple of questions.

How do you think colorism can be eradicated?

To what extent is colorism considered a social construct?

I look forward to reading your views and responses. Thank you.

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I hate to be a bearer of bad news but it's never going to end (in my opinion). Have you seen a group of say, 5 year old girls playing and there's a really lightskin one among them? Have you watched how these other kids and even adults treat the lightskin one?

The internalised white supremacy is already deepseethed from a young age and everyone, dark or fair sticks with the cards they're played or try to change their perception of themselves/others or even skin colour.

On a positive note, we can teach little kids that every skin is beautiful and normal by first showing we're not colorist ourselves. It won't eradicate colorism completely but there'd be less shitheads in the world.

I hate to be a bearer of bad news but it's never going to end (in my opinion). Have you seen a group of say, 5 year old girls playing and there's a really lightskin one among them? Have you watched how these other kids and even adults treat the lightskin one?

And this right here is my fear.

When it comes to Americans or 'Westerners' talking about colorism or racism, I immediately ignore their complaints. It is a waste of time dealing with the concept of racism in these places, especially in the United States.

Victim mentality, and the concept that "black people cannot be racist" is one of the dumbest things coming from the United States and liberal progressive propaganda.

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Honestly, it’s crazy how many women think men are only attracted to light skinned women. I don’t speak for all men when I say that dark skin unseats, but well…

What is even more sad is the extent (and cosmetics) I’ve seen some ladies go to (or through) to achieve light skinned complexions. I’ve seen beautiful dark skins fuck up their look trying to “lighten up a bit”. Where did this delusion come from?

In truth, it’s like a common thing around here and it’s just shocking how even we as black people lost faith in our skin color. Maybe some men love light skins, but a good number of us love dark skins and I wish more women knew that.

I wish I can frame your comment and put it on a billboard.

However, most women don't just think it, I want to believe it is a social construct, most women have experienced it.

That was a really beautiful read and I must confess that you write beautifully too.

You talked about two different things that I am kind of confused about. Are we talking about our country now or the world at large? Allow me to drop my two cents regardless

First of all, no one chooses to be white, fair, dark or black, so I guess the society is to be blamed for this particular topic. I don’t know who made the rules, but I dare to say they are fools, for being so shallow-minded and throwing the world into a rat race from their own idea of perfectionism. After we talk about colorism, then we should proceed to talk about sizeism (Lol, it’s endless sis, and I will definitely write about this soon)

How can colorism be eradicated?? It is, already (gradually though). People and industries are starting to embrace the dark skin tones because honestly, they are the real deal now! Taking over the movie, modelling and many other industries is dark skinned people. I really hope it will eventually be balanced and we won’t have to deal with this issue again from the other party.

And when talking about colorism, it is important to see things from both point of views. Exclude those who try to be what they are not just because they want to feel more confident and accepted(Again, we’ll blame that on the society).

You’d be very surprised to know that some fair people might have felt so insecure about their skin in this part of the world, just because they feel too different from others. Let’s just agree that the society has contributed in helping them to boost their confidence more, because they are the most adored ones.

The most important solution is for people to get more comfortable in their own skin. I’m glad people are talking more about all of this lately.

About that google search example ehn, it can be very frustrating.

Dear google, you have my location and I didn’t turn on a VPN, why exactly am I getting these results?

Bruh😂, it’s something else.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts

Thank you for reading Pearl.

Dear google, you have my location and I didn’t turn on a VPN, why exactly am I getting these results?

You getttt!!!!!

You talked about two different things that I am kind of confused about. Are we talking about our country now or the world at large? Allow me to drop my two cents regardless

It's not two different things. It's the same concept, but in different contexts. Colorism is a global bias. It is even more sad that as a black country, we have this kind of conversation. It goes on to explain my point about internalized white supremacy.

First of all, no one chooses to be white, fair, dark or black, so I guess the society is to be blamed for this particular topic. I don’t know who made the rules, but I dare to say they are fools, for being so shallow-minded and throwing the world into a rat race from their own idea of perfectionism. After we talk about colorism, then we should proceed to talk about sizeism (Lol, it’s endless sis, and I will definitely write about this soon)

I agree we cannot choose our race, but shade?? I don't know about that.

I'm glad you also think it's a social construct.
I look forward to your write up on sizeism, because the construct is also quite controversial. The beauty standard is the slim girls, while on the flip side is the praising of thick girls. I think this topic goes hand in hand with body shaming.

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Wow this is really great, this piece reminds me of a book i read years back The Bluest Eyes by Toni Morrison.

Seeing how society has created certain standards for beauty is alarming, makeup artist here would prefer to use a light skinned model for a makeup session or for a photoshoot because they believe the makeup will pop very well if the model is light skinned.

If there's one thing I hate so much is seeing people bleaching, you'd see a very fine light skinned girl with burnt knuckles, burnt elbows, burnt toes and the list is endless.

I pray people begin to accept themselves for who they are and that is the only way that we can move forward.

You totally get it. You must have a real life experience. I recently followed my mum to get her make up done for her photoshoot, I kept reminding the make up artist not to 'change her complexion' because my mum is a beautiful dark skimmed woman.

I'm sure you are not surprised that when the pictures came out, 'my mum became a white woman.

And the black knuckles part. Oh! There are a lot sister!

I will ensure I get the book. I've never heard of it.

I'm sure you are not surprised that when the pictures came out, 'my mum became a white woman.

Oh God, so sorry about that.

You can get the PDF online it is really nice

I will, thank you for the recommendation ☺️

I think one of the biggest frustrations I have with this is most of the everyday people I know and have ever interacted with in the various parts of the country and world I’ve been to, they don’t see or care about this. People are people, which is how it’s supposed to be.

Where things have gone sideways, is the intentional division and separation of people so that groups get marginalized and fighting. I wholeheartedly think this emphasis on skin color and race is a massive distraction of focus away from the real issues that are plaguing us and the world. The banking system is destroying us, politicians are stealing our money and future, wars are being started and fought strictly for profits, criminals being intentionally released. The world is a messed up place. These are all massive issues and not in our best interest as average citizens! Instead all that’s talked about is things of racial nature, preferences, sexual identities. Things that shouldn’t make a damn difference between two people that interact and are friends, partners, lovers or anything in between. We have a lot of things we could be focused on and working towards fixing and improving if we stopped focusing on things that really shouldn’t matter!

Growing up some of my best friends were Cambodian, Haitian, Puerto Rican, Brazilian, Russian and certainly many of European descent but we were all just teenagers and Americans! Didn’t see any of that bullshit division stuff. Didn’t care about it either, because we are just people.

I think it’s a shame that we have to spend so much time on these things that shouldn’t matter at all but some get disillusioned and make it more of an issue than it needs to be. I am not saying that your perspective isn’t important because it is, but I think we should stop focusing on these things as a society, exactly the way Martin Luther king did. It should be how someone acts, Carrie’s themselves rather than things like this.

Many years ago I dated a girl from west Africa somewhere, I forget where. She was a beautiful girl and was dark as night and we had a good time for a while but we were in different spots on our path so we parted ways but I was glad to have had the opportunity. I didn’t see her as a black girl, I saw someone that was attractive but she was a fascinating woman and was indeed beautiful, dark skin and all. The only strange looks we got was from some really old people but everyone else didn’t have a care in the world, as it should be. Just two young people dating.

which is how it’s supposed to be.

I like that you mentioned that is how it's supposed to be. But is it? Of course not.

In addition, there are many issues we are facing globally, the U.S. dollar, political corruption, mismanagement of funds, drug/human trafficking, racism, and colorism, and the list is endless.

However, I do not have a problem with classifying these problems, where my problem stands is not acknowledging these problem. It exists! And we cannot wait till the worth of the dollar is reinstated or till humans are no longer trafficked to start dealing with what you consider the 'small or unimportant issues', because by then, they will no longer be 'small'.

In addition, solving global issues as average citizens is not as easy as we are made to believe, at least where I am from, it's not.

Finally, it is okay that you are not color biased, but if only the whole world were like you, maybe we wouldn't even have to bother about any of the global issues mentioned above.