Relationships have a great impact on the well-being of humans. Either intra-relationship or extra-relationship. Most times, we humans channel our energy to the wrong source. Leaving behind those who deserve space in our hearts and starting to chase people who don't even care about us or our growth.
After Meditating deeply and reminiscing over some certain things that have occurred to me as a person, I have decided to challenge myself and you reading this post with these seven (7) questions:
Yes, you read that very well. Have you ever asked yourself such a question before? Do you think that all those you call your friends and peers will be happy for you if they see you achieving a lot in life?
Have you calmed down before to check the level of jealousy those so-called friends have in them? Not every single one of them will celebrate with you when you start progressing. You will be shocked to notice that those you even trust most, or those you believe are your close friends, will be more jealous of your success than your enemies.
When you have gotten the answer to the above question, you will know how much energy or emotion you have to invest in some people. Some of your friends are actually fans, not friends. Fans in the sense that they are there to be entertained at the moment, but friends will always stick around anytime and any day.
This is another important question you need to ask yourself as a human being. We pray for the best, but you could agree with me that some occurrences are inevitable and unavoidable. When you find the answer to the above question, you will never joke with the person who can stick with you in times of adversity. Many will forsake you when you are down; they only need you when you are still active and healthy. Once you have an issue with your health, they will disappear permanently from your life.
Someone I called my friend some time ago told me that he couldn't vouch for me and that he only trusted himself. That's very ridiculous and laughable. You can't be my friend without having some trust in me. What is the essence of calling you my friend when you can't even defend me in my absence? Two can't mingle or walk in Pari Passu without trusting each other. If trust is absent in the equation of friendship, friendship and relationship cannot stand firm.
Not everyone wants you to grow spiritually, physically, emotionally, and financially. You need to know who is in your life. Some people in your life will pretend to be happy for your growth, but deep inside of them, they never want you to grow above them. They may even try to pull you down indirectly, without your knowledge. Never joke with those who are happy when you are growing in every aspect of life. They are your real friends.
Do you have that single person in your life who never hesitates to come to your aid each time you are down? Don't take them for granted. They are very rare to find, and once you lose them, it will be hard to get them back.
There are some people in your life that you can't afford to lose, no matter what. They might be the ladder to your success, and if care is not taken, you might break the ladder.
I once had a friend with whom I always discomfort myself to make sure he was okay back then in school. It grew to some extent, and I sat myself down one day and asked myself if my friend could actually sacrifice anything for me. I decided to ask him to lend me money that I would pay him back later. I knew he received his allowance money from his parents a few days before the day I asked him for the money; he actually told me that he couldn't give me the money for some reasons best known to him.I wasn't surprised; I was even glad that the incident happened because I could have been inconveniencing myself for someone who doesn't deserve me.
I have to keep arms length with him and focus more on people who deserve to be treated well. This same story might be related to your own experience in the past or present situation; you just need to ask yourself questions and answer them yourself. When you are done, you will definitely know who deserves more of your attention and love.
All the pictures attached to this post are not my own. They are sourced from pexel
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