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My son loves his school, he likes to go, when he has not been able to go for various reasons, he feels like a nuisance, which in a way pleases me a lot, and I am grateful not to have that problem that many parents suffer from.
He is already 8 years old and is in 3rd grade, in 1st grade, he wrote little, expressing that his hand was tired, that his hand did not want to or sometimes he was lazy to do it, in this case the teacher only left a note that he had not worked.
In 2nd grade, he improved noticeably, not only did he write much more, but even the letter was super beautiful, like a mold, and sometimes he did not write it all, but there the teacher helped me a lot, helped me and sometimes sent me what was missing to copy at home, when he wrote it all, he congratulated me and told me that I was doing a good job, so when he did not write it all, the first thing I did was tell me "Mom, I'm sorry, I couldn't copy it all today" that action made me feel, as if. I wasn't going to scold him with that speech, so I just gave him that he should try to write everything, although well, at least I felt calm for the support I received from the teacher as I had mentioned before ...
In this new school year, he started writing everything, but a few days ago he started leaving parts without writing and even one day he didn't write anything, and he received the same message in his notebook "I didn't work" it should be noted that it is the same teacher from first grade.
This time I have been supported by the other mothers who pass the classes, so that he finishes copying.
When he was evaluated by the neurologist, and diagnosed with ASD and ADHD, the doctor also told me that he has hyperlaxity, and from what I know about the subject, it is possible that this can cause a kind of fatigue in his joints, so that it can be many times the reason why he does not write at a certain time, we do some movements in our hands regularly as a form of therapy, although I have not received instructions as such, but that serves him for his motor skills.
I don't know if it's a lack of motivation or if he's distracted or if it's his problem of elasticity, but I've included in the dynamics, rewarding if he writes his homework completely, so if he writes his classes completely, he receives a prize, either an ice cream, chocolate, but he will receive a ruthless punishment, called the corner where he must remain for a few minutes without speaking, without moving, he really dislikes the corner.
And well, it really worked, he wrote his classes, thinking about his precious prize, I am one of those who think that responsibilities as such should not be rewarded, however, if it requires an effort and thinking that perhaps writing a lot tires his hand and gets tired, I could be more flexible and give him an incentive.
I always say, being parents is a daily task, we don't know how to be it, the day to day just tells us how to do certain things, sometimes as parents we wonder if it is right or wrong, but time will tell, at the moment we just make decisions and actions as best as possible, the truth is that every day we all wake up with the intention of doing it better than yesterday, and that is our job.
A mi hijo le encanta su escuela, le gusta ir, cuando no ha podido ir por razones diversas, siente como molestia, cosa que en cierta forma me alegra mucho, y agradezco no tener ese problema que se hay muchos padres la padecen.
Ya el esta por cumplir los 8 años y esta cursando 3er grado, en primer grado, escribía poco manifestando que la mano se le cansaba, que la mano no quería o a veces tenia flojera de hacerlo, en este caso la maestra solo dejaba nota que no había trabajado.
En segundo grado, mejoro notablemente, no solo escribía mucho más, sino que hasta la letra super bella estilo molde, y a veces no escribía todo completo, pero ahí la maestra me apoyaba mucho, lo ayudaba y a veces mandaba lo que le falto para copiar en casa, cuando escribía completo lo felicitaba y le decía que estaba haciendo un buen trabajo, así que cuando no escribía completo, lo primero que hacía era decirme “mama lo siento hoy no pude copiar todo” esa acción me hacía sentir, así como que. no lo iba a regañar con ese discurso, así que solo le día que debía de trata de escribir todo, aunque bueno por lo menos me sentía tranquila por el apoyo que recibía de la maestra como había mencionado antes...
En este nuevo año escolar, comenzó escribiendo todo, pero hace unos días comenzó a dejar partes sin escribir y hasta un día no escribió nada, y recibió el mismo mensaje en el cuaderno “no trabajo” cabe destacar es la misma maestra de primer grado.
En esta oportunidad me he estado apoyando con las otras mamas que me pasan las clases, para que el termine de copiar.
Cuando fue evaluado por el neurólogo, y diagnosticado con TEA y TDAH además el medico me indico que él tiene hiperlaxitud, y por lo que conozco del tema es posible esto le pueda causar una especia de cansancio en sus articulaciones por lo que pueda ser muchas veces el motivo por lo que no escriba en un determinado momento, hacemos algunos movimientos en las manos con regularidad como forma de terapia, aunque no he recibido instrucciones como tal, pero eso le sirve para su motricidad.
No se si es falta de motivación o se distrae o si es su problema de elasticidad, pero he incluido en la dinámica, premiar si escribe completo su tarea, entonces si el escribe sus clases completas recibe un premio, ya sea un helado, chocolate, sino recibirá un despiadado castigo, denominado el rincón donde debe permanecer unos minutos sin hablar, sin moverse, el realmente le desagrada el rincón.
Y bueno realmente dio resultados, ha escrito sus clases, pensando en su preciado premio, soy de las que pienso que las responsabilidades como tal no deben premiarse, sin embargo, si requiere un esfuerzo y pensando en que quizás escribir mucho le cansa la mano y llega agotarse, podría ser más flexible y darle un incentivo.
Siempre digo, ser padres es una tarea diaria, no sabemos como serlo, simplemente el día a día nos va indicando como hacer ciertas cosas, a veces como padres nos preguntamos si está bien o mal, pero el tiempo es quien lo dirá, en el momento solo tomamos decisiones y acciones lo mejor posible, lo cierto es que cada día todos nos levantamos con la intención de hacerlo mejor que ayer, y esa es nuestra labor.
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