This has been one of the disadvantages due to series of activities involving with humans.Sometimes, i find it weird to notice the traits in a human since i don't have them or even even found it irritating if there is a continuous display. It is understandable to find children eating loudly but not you as an adult. Surprisingly, I don't find it attractive cause how d a grown adult not eat properly and this was because they didn't heed to correction or was taught properly.
As a team leader, i had experienced this nonchalant attitude from one of the team members which was exhausting. one of which was she neither contributes to the team project. So what was the next action i took as a team leader? i decided to communicate with her, but guess she did not change instead adapts to coming late for the meeting. At the end of the day, i had no choice than to proceed with the vision of the meeting without giving her credits.
On the other hand, someone told me that he got irritated by my perfume, that he was too strong for him. As if he was the one that was using it. He would always distance himself from me. Funny enough, what I used was a normal deodorant, body spray and perfume and a cologne oil perfume because i love to smell nice just as my look is the same. so what do i do, I had a conversation with him,trying to understand his perspectives and he made it known that it was a turnoff for his woman as he was not used to it.
There are similar cases of which i find annoying and if not properly caution may cause a lots of harms. I would love to share simple actions that tell one could be intentional, making use of a mobile tool aimlessly. Yeah you heard me right! Oh, i remember, going on travel and the driver is recklessly driving slowing and vehicles keep passing by and you feel like giving the driver a dirty slap to reset his brain. That sounds rude,right? or some would say you should be able to control your temperament, right. Well, it seems you have not been in the situation till you find yourself in that same shoes then you would understand how important it is to arrive at your destination on time without any interference.
In conclusion, we might found out these things are not done intentional but an habit that need to be corrected. So the first step before addressing the situation is that you have ability of self control as the the individual might not take it likely with you is that you communicate, then understand their area of view by showing empathy and also reflect that you could manage with by respecting their decision after expecting the urge to change. Remember that changes do not happen drastically. Therefore, let them take all the time they needed to adjust if willingly or rather have no choice than to adapt to the situation.
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