Everybody cannot be your wife/husband. Learn to know the open doors and opportunities that God brings your way in a human form
It is both weird and absurd when I see people trying to get intimate with the opposite gender who has always been nice and kind towards them. I know that every long term relationship, whether dating or marriage, often starts at the friendship level, but in my opinion, I think trying to turn every nice person you meet to a partner is madness because there are many disadvantages to it.
I know some people are of the opinion that the best way to keep a nice person is to make them a lifetime partner. So, instead of them to build a lifetime bond devoid of any intimacy that may later be beneficial to their own children, they simply ask the person out for a relationship. But, how long does a relationship of this sort last? And, why will you be destroying a promising friendship because of lust?
When it turns out that a friend you suddenly lust after has turned you down, the friendship will get sour and you will always be dodgy whenever you have the opportunity to meet them. Instead of sexualizing every of your friendships with the opposite gender, I think you should rather requite all of their care and affection.
That way, you will not only communicate to your friend how valuable and resourceful they are to you, you will also be able to build a friendship that your generations after you will enjoy. Many good friendship have been destroyed because one of the parties involved made an attempt to convert it to a sexual relationship when the other party was not in for it.
One of the things that made me feel more fulfilled apart from the degree I earned was that I was able to start and sustained a pure and true friendship with a few of my female course mates, and I was surprised with a gift which , for me, was a memento – even my children will come to see it. It was a portrait that one of my very few female friends made for me and I greatly appreciated it.
I was so happy after I received the gift that I could not let it go away from my side. At first, I refused to put it on the wall. I kept it close to me and admired it for a long time and my family members who were around started fuming. I did not blame them because they never understood what that gift meant to me.
My friend who gave me the portrait
I did not care about the size of the portrait, my satisfaction was that I was able to affect somebody’s life to a point she could give me that present. It was only a few of my course mates who also signed out on that day that earned that honour I did. It was one of the greatest honours I have ever received in my entire life.
I cannot also forget how God used my female friends to sustain me during my difficult days in school. As I reflect on my university days today, I know that I would not have enjoyed the favours I enjoyed and the connections I have built if I had made the attempt to sexualize those beautiful friendships that God gave me.
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