Parenting is a term that is widely used and mostly the misconception is there staring at us on a daily basis. Many parents have neglected their roles as guidance in our world today and just tailored it down to providing for the needs of the children and nothing more. In this we have seen parents who just gave birth and let the duty of caring for the child to the Nanny's, now nanny have an upper hand when it comes to training the children more than the parents. The child is sent to the nanny any time he asks for one thing or the other.
Some parents use the harsh economy as an excuse pushing the primary needs of the children which is goodly upbringing and discipline to the third party. On a daily basis I have seen this happen and I so from at it because it has not brought goodness to the society rather worst things happen on a daily basis. In situations that the parents have to work, it is important for the both to look at things critically and agree on who to continue with his job while the other stays back and care for the kids, this can either be the man or the woman but in all the both should not be absent from the home because the kids needs that care from them.
This is one topic that has been on the front burner in my home, infact I understood this so well before getting married because mine is not just to give birthday to children, but to have kids who I can be part of their development and more, I promised myself that even it will take me ten years without going for the regular job and care for my kids that I will do it.
My kids are a top priority to me and I look at it beyond the provision of food to their mannerism. What will it profit me to have myself a good job and the character of my kids are questionable. As an African parent I believe so well in the use of cane on my kids, as time progresses I discovered that a times I get to the point of missusing it so instead of the correction being given it comes down as hate.
Something happened few days back, I was helping my son with his revision as exam was approaching. We got to a particular topic in mathematics and he was not responding well. I tried my best to let him understand and that proved abortive. O boy! I became agree with him and used my hands to slap him up and down, this boy started crying and the class couldn't continue. Later I had to beg him then we continued. Two days down the line the younger one said, Mommy I Love You* and then responded, my boy came and said, Mommy the day you beat me I don't love you. These few words sank into my heart, the more I tried to explain he repeated same thing. Same day I told my Mom about this and she said I shouldn't try bearing him with my hands again, when they returned from school she tried to teach him a song to cancel that thought of hatred from his heart.
Every age should have their measure of discipline but it is important not to over stretch so that the essence will not be let out of the equation. For long I am working on not using cane in my home because a times it makes the children more stubborn but you know as humans most times we think after acting which is not good at all.
In all no form of discipline seems to be pleasant at first but at the end result will speak for itself and the kids will be so grateful that they where given the proper training especially for those who held on to the training that the perants gave and those who didn't pay attention will always regret their actions and wish for better days to come
This is my entry to hive Learners Contest week 140 and the last edition. Thank you for stopping by my blog
