When it comes to communication, I’m not a pro at it at all because I know how much I still have some troubles in some of my relationships with people due to a poor way of communication. Well, over the years, I’ve tried to analyze the major reasons and issues I have when it comes to communicating with people. I’m a jovial person to an extent because I do enjoy relating with people well, even if we could be seeing each other for the first time.m, but being jovial doesn’t completely guarantees a good communication.
Communication is called that because it is an interaction between two or more persons. If there is no interaction among people, you can’t say they are communicating because that is more like a person giving or receiving advice. The easiest way to know that one is communicating wrongly is when the person you are communicating with is not always interested in what you have to say and vice versa. It is normal sometimes when someone doesn’t want to listen to you, but when it becomes too much then it is a sign that you don’t have a good communication skills.
One thing we also need to take note of is that, not everyone will always enjoy communicating with us no matter how well we might be good at communicating. But at least, when more people find it easy to relay their thoughts to you, it means you’ve given them the right opportunity to do so and that also means you have a good communication skill. Learning how to communicate rightly is one thing we all have to master not just for ourselves but for others as well.
Like I mentioned, I’m not so good at communicating but then I try and like you, I want to improve on my communication skill. Communication is key in almost every aspect of our human lives. We can’t do without communication, if we try to it only means we don’t want to face life with ease at all. Life in its own is already a difficulty we have to overcome so learning how to communicate is one of the easiest way to get along daily.
Just imagine in a situation when as a person you need a remote control to the TV from a couch close to someone, unless you tell the person you need the remote control politely or even rudely, the person might not know you need that remote control and you might think the person is not a good person but then the least anyone would have done was to ask and not to assume the person should know you needed the remote control. And you see, this is one of the major setbacks we face in communication with others and sometimes even within ourselves.
So one of the major ways I believe will help and is helping me communicate more effectively is not to assume that someone already knows something. It doesn’t help at all, instead it only brings strive in such relationship. Well, I’m still guilty in assuming but most times I do that just to be naughty (which is not still a good idea too). If you have something that you want someone to know about, go ahead and tell them and don’t just assume that they know it because they don’t. If they know, it might not be true because it is based on assumption too.
Try to speak up first when it is you that need someone to know something, it’s fine to ask them to take a guess but know it is fine for them to get it wrong too. Just help them out when it gets hard than making it harder for them by asking them to keep guessing. Communicate everything that bothers you and also those things you think and know might cause harm to your relationship, don’t try to take it all in even when you know it doesn’t affect you. Let the next person know what you are thinking as much as possible, that way it will be easy to communicate better with time.
We should learn to always do unto others what we would want them to do to us. As much as I know, no one enjoys it when they are always expected to know everything even without having any knowledge of it. Communicating right is just what most of us need right now and I hope this helps someone get back an already dying relationship due to lack of good communication.
Wes & Grindan
