As a young lady, I have always fancied being a parent since I was a little girl, and it was due to many reasons; however, the major reason for me was that I simply love children. I love how innocent they look and how adorable they are; seeing them alone gives me the feeling of wanting to be a parent. Well, it took me some time before I realized that just finding them adorable wasn't all that there is to parenting, because one day things will change with them as they grow older.
I was privileged to enjoy the love of a parent, and I knew that I wanted the same for my own child; this instilled in me the need to acquire some traits to help me through that stage when I get there. There are quite a few things that I am building in myself to prepare for what's coming, and I will mention just the three that are of utmost importance to me in response to the beautiful topic suggestions by @amberkashif for the ladies of Hive week 186 contest.
- Accountability
One major trait I am building in myself as a future mother is accountability. In our world today, it's almost a norm that some parents, especially mothers, are very carefree when it comes to how they handle the bundle of blessings they have been given. They now concern themselves more with how to put food on the table and forget almost completely their role in training up their children. Children are blessings to any home, but they are not there for decoration; they are there for you as a parent to train them up to become useful to themselves, their families, and the world at large.
So as a parent, you should be able to be accountable for every action of your child. I have heard a lot of people say that a child can deviate from the way they have been brought up, but I don't buy that at all. As long as you as a parent never neglect your duties in training up your child, then that child will most likely never deviate from that training. And to train up a child requires a lot of things, and only one mistake might cost you a lot. So as a lady aspiring to be a parent, I believe that I need to be ready to be accountable for my child for my parenting to be successful.
- A good source of income
As a parent who has brought a new being into this world, you have to be able to cater to that child or children. Some might not see this as important, but I do because I have seen cases where a parent has to give away their child to someone just because they were indebted to such a person, and in the end, that child's life gets ruined. This might also fall a little under accountability, but I think it deserves to stand alone. Money is very vital in our world today, and it helps to curb some excesses and also helps parents from taking some drastic decisions.
Our children deserve the best we can give to them, and having financial independence can help save more time for parents to focus more on achieving their goal of actually training their children and not just having them around. A lot of parents today are doing poorly in taking care of their children because they have an unstable source of income, and that has affected how they had planned to bring up their children. So looking at it from this angle, I would try my best to be financially independent to a great extent before thinking of bringing a child or children into this world.
- Godly foundation
The last but not the least is having a solid foundation, and for me, no other foundation can be as strong as that which is built on a rock. Having a good bearing with the Almighty God and building everything on Him is one sure way to be successful in parenting. In as much as we try to take away the spirituality in most things, it's only a matter of time before we will agree that there is more than meets the eye.
For me, Christ Jesus is my firm foundation, the rock on which I stand, and I so much believe that anything built on Him is safe and secure. Having such a foundation as a parent, I believe that parenting won't be a hassle for me at all. All I need to do is trust the One who leads the way, and I will be just fine.
That's all for my response to the first topic for the ladies of Hive contest. Please feel free to leave your thoughts and contributions.
