How much do you appreciate your other half?
How did you handle her emotions, especially her mood swings?
Do you have much patience for her?
How are you able to help her ease the burden she's been through all day long?
I am a father and a husband who'll write my thoughts about parenting in this community. I would also go to share with you what my wife has been through and how much I appreciate her efforts.
My wife is a super mom. I never thought I'd be able to say to myself I'm blessed to have her. She's not a perfect wife but she's an ideal person you want to have in your life. You know, no one is perfect so I would just say she's an ideal wife. She's kind but she's a blade also that's why I see to it that my actions will suit her taste of mood for a day because if not, she will surely not hesitate to have a war with me and I will always be the loser. You know, they said women are always right.
It's not under husband but an understanding husband.
I believe in the quote "Happy wife, happy life."
That's why I want my wife a happy one. I'm just glad that she's down to earth and easy to please. She's not a materialistic person also though she loves buying stuff like household things, especially kitchen stuff. I supported her with that because I know it was for our family. And I also need to make our kitchen full of things in need especially for cooking because she'll just stare at me blankly but a blade one, just like one time when I didn't know there was no onion available in our kitchen and she was going to cook our viand. Do you know what she did? She started at me and went to the bedroom and locked the door and went to sleep while I felt so hungry. In short, I was the one who cooked the viand without onion. She was like that, the reason I need to always check the kitchen stuff.
I am the one who goes to the grocery store and market to buy our needs at home. My wife is a house buddy coz she doesn't like going outside the house. She prefers to stay at home with our son and take care of him and do household but she hates going to the market. I am also the one who budgeted our money because every time I gave it to her she'll always say that I am just giving headache. She said, budgeting gives you a headache and since then I believe her already.
Papa's daycare
Every time I have extra time like during weekends, I am the one who's on duty with our son if and only if I don't have any activity at school. And I am the one who's on duty at night: taking our son to a bath and putting him to sleep. I am the one who'll wake up at night if our son wants milk.
Why do I do so?
Because I know how exhausted my wife is during the day. Our son is so hyper that can drain your whole energy even if it's still morning. What do I do in a day with my son?
We play in our bedroom, he likes horseback riding and wants to sing rhymes with me. Our son is a sweet little soul and loves cuddling. He can relieve my stress from work every time I arrived home. True, not always a good day because sometimes our son was not in good mood and he cried so loud. Every time I can't stop our son from crying loudly, my wife will get mad at me. I know, I know. Sometimes it's hard to handle toddlers that's why we both need to help each other parent him. Not because she's the mother, she'll do all of the household chores and take care of our son. She needs to have a short time for relaxation just like taking a nap or doing anything she likes to do while I am on duty with our son.
Our son loves bread. He likes eating bread while having his milk. That's why every day, we see to it we have bread at home. We bought 30 pesos of bread which will be enough for our son for a day. Coz if he doesn't have bread a day, he'll not stop crying.
You see, as a husband or a partner, it doesn't mean that because we are male, we will not help our wives with the household chores and taking care of our son. I also believe that every woman who gave birth to our children is also like a newborn baby who needs care. And it's the time that they also need our attention because they undergo a lot of changes from pregnancy until they gave birth. We should appreciate our wives by giving as the most special gift of life. I may not be a perfect husband but I hope my wife will get well soon from her anxiety and depression and will know that I appreciate everything he did for me and our family. She's having depression because of not having a regular job and seems irritated by everything. I sometimes get mad because I don't understand her anymore but as usual, I can't just let her be like that because I can't stop myself from worrying about her condition. That's why, I am here always for her, telling her that I'm always beside her to support everything about us and that she should not think of herself as useless. Sometimes, I just don't like her for over working herself. Sometimes, she won't tell me that she's doing something out of my knwoledge. It's like I didn't do things enough for us. But I always think of positive thoughts that my wife is not a typical wife tht will just wait for my salary. Because she's an independent woman who will do everything for her family especially for our son.
Hey sweety dragon seed @zbabe, always remember I'm here and will always understand your mood swings that moves like the speed of light. I want you to know that I appreciate you a lot even if you get mad at me like all the things I did is a mistake. I am still here to help you feel fine with the depression you have. I always tell you that your turn to shine of having a job will come in the right time. I hope you won't give up of everything. We're here for you, always remember that.
-----> Teacher Jeff👨🏫
