Isn't it funny how we watch friendship tear apart? The same way some couples watch their marriage fall apart from little misunderstanding or miscommunication from either or both parties.
We let our ego get the best of us and always try to find who is at fault and who should tender apologies.
Most times we start hating on each other because one party or both aren't making it easier to even forgive the wrong or cause of the fight or misunderstanding in the first place.
I've seen best of friends become stranger because of this same mistake.
I've seen siblings fight one another to the grave because one of them refused to forgive the hurt and let go of the pain of what was done or said to him or her.
I think forgiveness isn't an easy thing if you ask me but it's worse if the issues or cause of a problem is prolonged.
Right from childhood, I couldn't keep malice with my friends or siblings.
I was always bothered and never at peace each time we had any little misunderstanding that led to exchanging of words and avoiding each other or keeping each other mute
I was always the one most disturbed in my case so I usually thank the Lord whenever we get to settle and be at peace with one another again.
I can't do the many months or years of keeping malice with someone like I see most of my classmates and colleagues do
I used to wonder how they cope, how they are able to do it cause I knew I couldn't find myself in that shoe or such space, I could die of depression.
I do not know how to be at loggerhead with someone for rather too long so I always find a way to settle things before you even know it or before it gets out of hand.
So growing up to see friends betray each other and even siblings do same baffles me.
To the point of cursing each other and wishing everything bad on each other.
I usually marvel at the sight and it disgusts me.
I understand that it's painful to be stabbed or hurt by a very close friend, even worse a sister or brother but I don't think it's enough to curse each other or desire evil against each other.
I might not know the level of pain caused, bruises and scars left, I might not know how deep the cut was, but to me it's still not enough to curse the earth for another person.
It will be hard to forgive or even forget but the least we can do is try to let go of the hurt and be at peace with ourselves rather than always plotting evil and wishing for the person's downfall.
You hurt the more each time the opposite of what you wished the person happens or occurs.
So it's best to look away if you can't forgive and live your life without being worried or bothered about the other person because physical wounds might fade away but emotional pains or wounds stay forever with us if we nurture or welcome it.
9 May, 2024
