This is one topic I always found fascinating right from when I was a teenager. It came as a result of seeing my friends and classmates boasting about having boyfriends while I had none. They claimed those boyfriends were their soulmates.
Then the thoughts and feelings of companionship with a member of the opposite sex began to creep into my mind. I would watch my friends exchange love messages and attend parties with their boyfriends. They believed they were in love.
A few days before our graduation from secondary (high) school, one of my friends broke up with her boyfriend. She cried her eyes out and I was the shoulder she leaned on. I tried my best to comfort her while promising not to allow myself to become hurt like that. I also antagonized the boyfriend for hurting my friend.
Now that I am older and wiser (I believe), I realized my friend was too young to know what or who a soulmate is or isn't. I know there are places where women are married off in their teenage years, which was what we were, it still does not mean they are mature for marriage or old enough to understand what a soulmate is.
Our souls are our inner person, our true selves, the place where our convictions and beliefs are formed. This presupposes that a soulmate is a person whose beliefs, characters and inner self make a 'perfect' match with another person. This makes their relationship easy, peaceful and they form a bond.
Some people believe there is only one soulmate created for everyone. I wonder, what about those who fall genuinely in love and have more than one soul connection? Does it mean they are an exception to the general rule? Does it not contradict the 'rule' of one soulmate?
The term soulmate in my opinion is derived from the bonds of friendship and fellowship. It is possible to form a soul connection or an unbreakable bond with another person and this does not have to be a romantic love connection.
My mother and I are extremely close. We have that mother-daughter-friend bond and we understand each other. We share our inner thoughts. Therefore I can say we have a soul connection; we are soulmates. I also have a soul connection with my husband. That's a given. I think he knows me more than I know myself. 😃
This means soulmates are special connections we form as a result of our human interactions with others which is normal. Humans are social beings. But I choose to disagree with the popular notion that every man and woman is fated to have only one soulmate.
At every stage of our lives and environment, we meet people with whom we interact. Eventually, we connect specially with one or more people because it's normal and it's who we are. We can have more than one soulmate, romantic or platonic connection.
Holding onto the myth that we have only one soulmate can deter the formation of beautiful relationships. We cannot be an island, we need people. Go ahead and form those special connections.
What are your thoughts on this issue? I would love to know them.
Thanks for reading.
