Happy and Blessed day, I wish you are super well, healthy, shining, growing and learning every day to be a better human being, As parents we always see our children with eyes of love and we see them as perfect beings forgetting that imperfection is part of being human and nobody is perfect, I am the mother of 2 beautiful and spectacular children, they are my light and my greatest love, my little daughter of 12 years is in that stage, I don't know, the other mothers call her rebelliousness because of adolescence, it is not easy to be Mother, give everything for everything so that your children are well, they don't lack anything, and one day they tell you: "Mom. You suffocate me" it was something like, OH MY GOD!!! !!! As you remember I commented on it in the last post and yes! That's what's happening to me right now, I'm learning to deal with a teenager, although even though I was super upset, hurt, I didn't know how to deal with the situation, I was optimistic.
This last 5 days I was drier, although I was always aware of letting her believe that she had distance, I looked for a way to let my daughter feel a little more independent, within what is possible, in banal things such as not holding her hand when crossing a street , or not to enter with her until inside the school, I would leave her at the entrance and ready I stay outside with the other mothers talking, in the music conservatory it was the same process, although I colluded with the other Conservatory mothers so that we would all be attentive of all without the children feeling watched by their mother, that is, we all take care of the children of all but they think that their mother is giving them more freedom.
On Saturday while the children were in the orchestra dress rehearsal, I played the theme you will not believe me! it is surprising of 12 mothers who were there and 2 fathers only 1 said my daughter is not like that, how satisfying to realize that we are not alone in this situation of rebellious children, in the previous publication they told me that there are entire libraries on this subject and it is So true, Thank you, you're right, there are thousands of books, documentaries, and others about raising children. I've read so many, I've heard so many tips, the books helped a lot, but it's not enough, it's not the same to read it as to do it, how difficult it is when you find yourself trapped in the situation and you don't know how to cope with the children because it is your responsibility to make them follow the path of good, they are the future, you are helping them forge their own future, of each decision as a mother that we make for them or with them or just for them can radically change so many situations
Yesterday, AFTER 5 DAYS being the most indifferent mother possible with all the pain in my soul, giving answers like, you can because you are big, avoiding, speaking little, my daughter told me Mom, sorry, I just hugged her, I told her that everything is fine I will always be her mother and I love her above all things! I tried to let her know that I am proud of her and hugged her again; After that moment it is as if my girl was herself again, loving, attentive, and dedicated. When we left the conservatory we ate an ice cream and it was so perfect she told me about her day, how bad she felt these days and she told me what was really happening, a new violin partner in the orchestra told her "What a crab your mom, don't leave Freedom" I understand that as children they allow themselves to be influenced, although I do not approve of what happened, I listened to her and calmly explained that she should always be herself, and never feel sorry or uncomfortable for being who she is! except for her mother, so many people would give anything for 1 more minute with her mother and in my opinion that girl is a little premature in her thoughts and it is not right to think or worry more about what others say, the rest of the The afternoon went well until his friends arrived and they went into their next class.
We must always keep in mind, Mother, Father so that you see that you are not alone, that sometimes talking to you helps us understand and have other perspectives on things and situations, sometimes we do not know if what we do is right or not, but never doubt yourself and always keep in mind that to err is human, we learn together in this process and step by step we are better parents, friends, colleagues. Something I am learning is that if my daughter trusts me, and loves me like I love her! Thank you for reading me, I will continue reading every day, improving, growing and learning day by day, Being an imperfect mother, Human but full of love for my children.
We'll see each other in a few days, Cheer up. Being a mother is beautiful but sometimes it hurts. I DON'T KNOW IF I'M DOING IT RIGHT OR NOT? but love can do everything!
We'll see each other in a few days, Cheer up. Being a mother is beautiful but sometimes it hurts.I DON'T KNOW IF I'M DOING IT RIGHT OR NOT?
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