MORE OR FEWER SIBLINGS: WHICH ONE HAVE YOU EVER WISHED FOR?

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I have three siblings, and it's been bittersweet and rosy with them. What I mean by that is that there are days we fight and there are days we play together, and most days when things become bitter between us, I always wish I didn't have siblings and had to live my life alone on this earth without one, but the days we smile at each other, I thank God for not making me the only child of my parents.

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But truth be told, deep inside me, I wish I had more elder siblings and fewer younger siblings. Growing up as the firstborn of the family is really tough, and there are days I have to sort things out by myself while also thinking of how to send my younger siblings some money, no matter how small it is. Will it not be wonderful if I have elder siblings whom I will be able to bill? But too bad I don't have any.


Due to Hivelearner's topic question, "Have you ever wished you had more or fewer siblings?

I have always wished to have more siblings, and yes, the wish comes with them being older than me, and if possible, I should be a middle child because I don't want to be the last born. Most lastborn go through a lot in their elder siblings hands by having to do most chores at home and things they are not supposed to do. That being said, I still don't wish for more younger siblings. The ones I have are always a pain in my neck. They are sweet once in a while, though😂😂.

What made me get to that point

The real deal was all because I want to have older siblings to bill, ask for advice from, be able to rely on when I need someone, and yes, I can possibly take one of them as my best friend instead of looking for someone outside my family. And for real, most elder siblings are sweet and can do anything for their younger ones, just like me. And the issues of having fewer younger siblings,deep inside me, I will have peace not thinking of how to take care of some siblings that I didn't bring to this world because, apart from the responsibility that comes with having a lot of younger siblings, you will think they are sent to frustrate your life because of how they can be at times.
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How was I able to get past it?

I was able to get past it with the belief that life can't happen to me the way I want, and I just have to accept it the way it was made for me. And the fact that I have them as siblings is a decision made by their parents, and I don't have the right to question it, so all I can do is accept them as they gave birth to them. So, I get to learn to be the elder sibling that I want for my younger siblings, and sincerely, it's not easy, but it's nice being one.

I know this topic is all about having fewer or more siblings, but what first came to mind was what type of siblings. Is it male or female, older or younger? because I have seen a lot where as an elder sibling to my younger siblings😂.

Thank you for reading.

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Wow, can't believe it's a year already❤️🥺💃. Thank you😊.

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Smile see this lazy Nigerian youth, you are looking for more elder siblings, dey play.😂😂

Well I understand your plight and know how demanding it could be as the eldest child.

Wahala this aunty is still avoiding the last born role again. 😂😂

I know last born duties are also enormous and I guess that's why you just wished you're somewhere in the middle.

Eldest child dey see a lot of shege abeg, but what Can I do than to accept my fate😂🥲😭

Being the eldest child is a full time job. You have to play different roles in the lives of your younger ones to guide and enable them find their way when they are out in the world.

Exactly dear, which requires a lot of strength and giving most of your leisure time to them.

Awww, so if I was your big sister you would have used too much billing to finish me. Ok oh long time dear it's been a long time.

Yes oooo, na God say make into get self because billing go just plenty😂😂. Yes oooo I have being so busy offline.

It's good to have you around

Be there looking for who to bill😜

Being the first born always puts a weight on you that you wish you could just drop. You are a lady though, probably one day your husband will help you drop that weight.

Who don't like free money? Or don't you?😂😂. Well, I pray I get a giver as a husband. Thank you for your comment.

From what you say, it seems you are the eldest?
Well, God has a purpose for making you the eldest and something tells me that other siblings may feel the opposite of what you feel hehe
Enjoy my sister... It's good that you found a way to manage the thought, though.

Yes, I am the eldest and yes, God sure has his purpose and I just have to go with his decision.

Lol, majority of people don't want to be the last born cause of house chores and likewise the first born cause of responsibilities. Your plight is understandable, it's not really easy.

But in all, your position is very important in the family. So enjoy yourself as the big mama of the house couple with your younger ones frustrations 🤣🤣. It been a while, hope you have been good dear?

Yes dear,I have being good. I am just busy offline.Thank you for your comment.

Ohhh ok that's nice. Stay safe