Am I a bad mom to them?

in #hive-1657572 years ago

Hello everyone!!!
What's up hivians....Happy first day of the month.I hope you are all doing great today.

For today's blog ,I will be sharing the thing that makes me feel guilty as a mom and it made me to question my self ,Am I a bad mom to them?

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Just a normal day ,I was busy doing all the house chores.I keep cleaning and chasing my kids messed.I am doing this coz I am afraid they will make more messed in this house whivh is not ours.We are staying anyway at my inlaw's house while our house is not uet finished.

I make sure to keep all the pens ,pencils and some sharp materials coz I know they write anywher especially on the wall.

While my kids are busy playing ,I had a 7 years old and 3years old son.Just a few minutes or second they are fighting.So I told them to stopped what they are doing but they are not listening to me.

They continue playing and after a while they are fighting again.I get some sorethroat on telling them but it seems that they are not listening to me.

Until my youngest son was crying loudly because he hit first his elder brother and my eldest son gave a punch to him and cried.

I get mad and scolded my edest son ,coz he is older that his brother he will be the one who will adjust everytime hos brother started a fight to him.

But my son got mad at me and told me that he did'nt do it first ,he was just protecting his self but he punch his younger brother.

After a while noisy sounds turns quitely ,so I continue doing some of my house chores ,I am cleaning the sink ,wash the dishes and continue doing my laundry which I did'nt finished last day.

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Then cleaned the toilet but then I heard one of them was crying again.Since I feels exhausted ,I was'nt able to control my self and scolded my eldest son though it was not his fault.My husband did'nt agreed on how I decipline our kids ,I am focusing our eldest son .

I felt guilty but I trying to explained my eldest son that I am doing it coz he is older than his brother and he can understand more than his brother.

While they are sleeping ,I feels so guilty and feels that I am a bad mom to them.I was'nt able to control myself because of tiredness and scolded them a several times.

Bit in the otherhand ,I am thinking and comparing on how my parents deciplined us and how do I deciplined my kids.
When I was a kid ,my parents especially my father deciplined us well ,they make sure taht we realized the bad things we did and it never made me to feel anger to them and I realized when I get older that they are doing it for us to become a bette person.

My kids are still young and I do hope that one day they will realized that I am doing this for them and its part of how do I mold them to be a better persons.

And that would be all for today,anyway whats your thought about it?How do you decipline your kids?Please let me know at the comment section.

Thanks for reading my blog and have a great day!

Love,
@mitch18

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ma dinosaur gani ko sa duha ka mga chikiting. sakit na ang tutunlan. haha

Lage maam,kapoy byahe usahay no hihi

Parenthood in this generation is a lot different compared to the previous era. It is more challenging and disheartening sometime. As a mother, you are given both the challenge and the opportunity to contribute to the future of society. As long as you are doing what you think and feel is good for your children, you are still on the right track. All the best!

I can totally relate. Ganyan din ako pag medyo busy at dami iniisip minsan napapagalitan ko cla pag di nakikinig. Sa akin naman kung sino ung nagkamali sya ung pinagsosori ko regardless kung sya ung mas matanda o mas bata. Kailangan din matuto cla na pag mali ung ginawa nila, mali un at di dapat ibang tao mag adjust.

Yan din point ng mister ko kaya minsan nag tatalo kami ,iniisip ko kasi hindi pa masyado naka intindi si bunso kaya ang panganay lagi kong napagsabihan at napagalitan.

So difficult to be parents!
And more when we don’t agree as a couple the way one other is trying to force the children. Maybe those kind of differences made the crisis in my marriage that since three years ago i am in… in addition to jealousy. ;(

Thats true ,its very difficult espcially if tge couple had a different ways on deciplining the kids.
Feels sad to hear that about you ,sending my hugs to you🤗

Thank you so much!
Hopefully you find the best way