August 14 is my birthday, her day and our day.
A day for gratitude, mixed-feelings, reflections and more. This Sweet girl was born and each year, I count my blessings, while challenging myself for more growth.
From a toddler to a pupil to a student, now a young adult growing into more. These past two decades has been filled with unforgettable moments of joys and growth. Seeing the woman I am becoming, shows how much I've grown past the thing that were meant to break and mar me.
Today also marks a day of bittersweet reflections. It’s "Goodness'" birthday too —a day that once symbolized double the joy, shared laughter, and the unique bond only twins can truly understand. But now, it is a day I’ve had to process differently since my dear her passing.
Losing a twin is like losing a piece of oneself, and that void is something words can scarcely capture. Yet, amidst the sorrow, today is also a celebration - of Goodness' life, her spirit, and the growth and resilience I’ve found in the wake of her absence.
Goodness (Mfonido) was more than just a sister; she was my confidante, and the one who understood my heart even before I spoke. We shared everything: dreams, secrets, and the little moments that made life beautiful. Her presence was a constant reminder that I was never alone in this world. When she passed, it felt like the ground beneath me had crumbled, leaving me to rebuild a new reality without her by my side.
In those early days of grief, I often wondered if it would ever be possible to move forward. But as time went on, I realized that her strength lived on within me. She was always the braver one, the one who faced challenges head-on and encouraged me to do the same. So, in her honour, I decided to grow that courage, to grow, and to live a life that would make her proud.
Not for many words, though, I am grateful in all things. Hear me, grief is a complex journey, one that does not have a clear end. There are moments when the pain feels fresh, as if no time has passed at all. But there are also moments of peace, where I feel my twinee's presence reminding me of the resilience we both shared. Each day without her has taught me many things about strength, about finding light in darkness, and about the power of memory.
My Twinee's birthday is now a day of reflection—an opportunity to honour her for the life she lived and the profound impact she had on mine. It is a reminder that although she is no longer here in the physical sense, her essence remains with me. I carry her laughter in my heart, her wisdom in my mind, and her courage in my soul.
Today, I celebrate the woman I’ve become because of her. I’ve learned to cherish the memories, to find joy in the small things, and to live each day with purpose. Mfonido, wherever you are, this is for you. Thank you for the years we had together, for the lessons you taught me, and for the strength you have given me to carry on. I miss you every day, but I know that you’re still with me, in every step I take.
Happy birthday, my dear sister. Happy birthday to us. You're no more here physically but you still live. I will continue to honour your memory by living a life filled with purpose. I am becoming many things and more.
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