Personally, I believe that we are not ready for this conversation. Some women feel comfortable in a relationship when the man has a bigger pay, but are not so eager to date someone who earns less. Why?
Why is it always different when the circumstance is reversed? I mean, men are people too, so who set a standard that a man may date a broke or low-earning woman, but really a taboo when a woman does?
I read somewhere on Instagram, where someone had put up a post implying that women go on social media to speak about feminism, demand gender equality. Ask to be treated the same way as men and all of that, they declare that men and women are equal but deep down in their souls, they wholeheartedly subscribe to the notion that the financial obligation of a relationship(intended or existent)has to be placed on the man.
So, you start to wonder, where is the same fervor with which they yelled out for equality? Completely gone.
I have absolutely nothing again feminism. It’s simply wrong that you identify as a feminist yet you truly are not. You enjoy the concept of feminism but when reality sets in, you offer a male bigger financial obligations, thus, giving him overwhelming influence in your union. Now you do not desire the dominance you so strongly wanted when hiding behind your phone keyboard.
I believe that men know these things and that is typically where their insecurities stem from. I have a buddy who has been single for so long because he feels he’s not nearly as perky financially as he should be. The individual in question is far from broke, he’s pretty comfortable if you ask me.
I know we go on about how a man is a provider and all of that is based on conventional societal gender stereotypes. Many fail to grasp that there are a whole lot of crucial factors to consider before picking a spouse or accepting his proposal. It is not always about money. Do not get me wrong, money is also essential but it is not the most important. However, If that’s your most important criteria for picking a guy then you need to think again.
Please note that this article is in no way implying that you settle for a man who’s not precisely there yet and does nothing to put himself out there, simply put, the lazy ones. It’s geared at the decent, hardworking guys who try everyday to be better versions of themselves. The ones with prospects. When you meet them, you’ll know.
If you find a great person who is hardworking however makes lower than you but you still dismiss him because by cultural standards, “a man must earn more“, then you are so wrong.
Earning much more than a partner or possibility provides you no power to show off or say things to make him inferior. Men are inherently egocentric beings, so every time he is reminded of his lesser wages is a direct strike at his already injured ego.
If you are ready to enter into a suitable relationship, one that is mostly backed by shared values, love, understanding, respect, and friendship, I hope you recognize that it is not always about money.
Money is not a metric to judge people, and it should never be. A man isn’t a means to earn, he is human too. Remember, It’s a relationship, not a money-making plan or a competition. It is intended to be a grow-together affair. At the end of the day, the decision is all yours to make.