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Set boundaries, prioritize yourself, and say no without explanation.
~Unknown
It is in the nature of man to be compassionate and want to render help to others.
But some individuals have taken this kind gesture for granted and made it look like it's their right.
A few years ago, my husband noticed that there was this young guy in the church that was not in school, and he asked the guy to know why he was not in school. The guy's reply was that he had no money to register for WAEC.
So my husband told him that whatever they start WAEC registration, he should let him know he would pay for him and let them see what would happen after that.
That was how money was given to this guy for WAEC and NECO. Just in case he fails any subject in WAEC, at least NECO would cover up for it. After some time, he made a request that he wanted to write JAMB also. Money was also transferred to him.
When the WAEC, NECO, and JAMB results were out, we were expecting him to show us his results, but he never did.
Instead, he kept demanding more money for different reasons, like his father is sick and he needs money for his treatment, and so on.
What finally broke the carmels back was when he sent a message to my husband that he wants to attend his late uncle's burial but doesn't have transport fare and that my husband should please transfer money to him to travel to the village for the burial.
I was so pissed off when I saw the text, and I told my husband not to transfer the money to the guy, and that should be the last time he would ever give money to the guy.
This guy kept calling and sending text messages when he didn't get any response; after some time he stopped.
These are one of so many reasons why people don't like helping people, because the moment you start helping people, they transfer all their problems to you.
Boundaries should be set when we notice people keep making constant and frequent unnecessary requests without making any effort on their side to change their situation.
Also, when you meet people with an entitlement mentality, you should set boundaries on your giving, and this mostly happens with family members who just feel it is their right for you to give to them.
If helping others is going to jeopardize your own financial stability, you set the boundaries without thinking twice. You can't give to people and strain your pocket.
You can show people emotional support and understanding when they ask for your assistance without committing to them financially.
Prioritizing yourself and your well-being is very important when setting boundaries on any financial decisions.
This is my entry into the #hivenaijaweekly prompt
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