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ph1102 in #hive-153850 • 6 months ago

Reading your post made me think about how I did it when I was in your age... I suppose it was in a similar way as you, with the difference that I left 2 homes... For the first time when I went to study, and when I finished, I didn't actually come home... I was there for a short time, but I couldn't settle down... In the end, I found my own place, got married, and had a child...

Today, I'm thinking about how will my son do it... He will have 18 years in 2 months, go to the University, and what will happen later, I have no idea... As a parent, I have mixed feelings about it... It would be great to have him near, but on the other side, it's normal that he build his own life, which is done the best in a way like you are doing...

Now I don't know what I should do, should I get him something little as well even though it is not his birthday in order to appreciate him so that he will not feel less loved or left out. I am thinking and considering this because I know one day in this life, I will be a father too. What do you think?

As a dad, I do not expect gifts or anything similar... The best gift is respect and love of the child...

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6 months ago in #hive-153850 by ph1102

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starstrings01 6 months ago

suppose it was in a similar way as you, with the difference that I left 2 homes

was is also at a similar age?

I was there for a short time, but I couldn't settle down... In the end, I found my own place, got married, and had a child...

This is the goal, find my own place, get married and have a child but before that, have some set of skills that will make me financially capable and ready for this type of life.

He will have 18 years in 2 months, go to the University,

Happy birthday in advance to your son. He is soon to enter the University. Wow. I feel it will be the same for him when he gets to the point he is about to finish at the university.

As a parent, I have mixed feelings about it... It would be great to have him near, but on the other side, it's normal that he build his own life, which is done the best in a way like you are doing...

I think it is still possible to have him near by knowing his plans and also helping him to through it and if there is free time, there can be some family time that can be done occasionally where he will be invited to stay a few days.

The best gift is respect and love of the child...

this touched me.. a child can express his love by also getting things for their parents.

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ph1102 6 months ago

was is also at a similar age?

I was 26 when I got married and I got my son when I was 28... When I got married, around that time we moved to "our place"... Before that, we were fixing the home where we were planning to live...

Happy birthday in advance to your son. He is soon to enter the University. Wow. I feel it will be the same for him when he gets to the point he is about to finish at the university.

Thanks! Yeah, that's exactly why I found your post intriguing... he is coming to a certain age where he should start thinking about how (and where) his life will go...

this touched me.. a child can express his love by also getting things for their parents.

As a child, we don't think too much about how much our parents had to sacrifice to have bread on the table, clothes, education, and of course love... Having a kid of my own, I now respect a lot more my parents and I only now realize how much they gave me... in those circumstances that weren't the best...

Don't overthink too much... I know that I do that very often, but most of the time, things are simple... A lot of things in life come to us, without our constant thinking, stressing, and trying to go in some other direction...

Have a great weekend!

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