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Kids are amazing and fun to hang around with. They create a lively atmosphere with their funny acts, smiles, surprising behaviours etc. They make the world beautiful and having to learn lots of things from them makes it more interesting. The way we handle kids sometimes, most adults wish they shouldn't grow up because of how soft they are, while for others, they just want them to grow quickly, especially with kids that are stubborn and most times annoying with some certain behaviour and parents would want them to start walking so they could rest from everyday carrying and backing.
Now, the fun part of it is seeing them grow gradually, doing things for themselves and acting exactly like an adult. Just like every other person who wishes to have a certain number of children, I have found myself fantasising about the numbers I would have too.
My parents gave birth to 5 of us and, seeing how things were for them and how we were given to relatives to care for us due to financial constraints, most times, I tried asking myself why they couldn't stop at just 2 or 3 which they would be able to cater for instead of what has happened to us. Being a part of this experience and seeing how things have played out, gave me the reason why I should give birth to just 2 kids.
When my friends and I are discussing this particular topic, I make sure to remain on my stance and not go beyond because of the reason that I want to be able to watch them and take care of them. Who knows what the future will bring, it is better to make the plan now and work towards it. Even if I am financially stable in the future, I still would want 2 kids that I will cater for, watch them and provide all they want without giving an excuse. Some will say that having a kid still doesn't guarantee an 'okay' life, yes, but in my case, I believe with that number of kids, it would be easier for me because I am already working on myself and planning for the future.
I have noticed that rich people focus on 2 to 3 kids and they give them a quality life and not go beyond that. They understand the principle of not giving birth to more children but work on family planning and not like the opposite where they feel having more children equates to bringing in more income for them.
If we have to look at it in another way which I don't pray it happens at an early stage, when a partner dies or both go their separate ways through a divorce or any other means without both agreeing on co-parenting, it becomes a problem to either one of them wanting to be a single parent.
Now, just imagine how it would be being a single parent to more than 2 or 3 kids. The stress in it would be too much and frustrating. So, this is another reason I want to have those numbers of kids to be able to care for them.
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Another reason is to have effective socialising and bonding. Having just 2 kids for me would help me know what is happening between them. I will be their friend and they also would be able to share things with me. It would be easier for me to see and know what is going on in their lives and not miss out on anything. I would have a tight bond with them and find it easier to relate with them in the best way. When we are just 4 in the home; myself, my hubby and the 2 kids, it makes it more fun having a simple life together with no chaos. With these two, it would be easier to go out together as a big family, enjoy the fun of exploring every place and be able to reach out to one another.
With 2 kids, I won't be overburdened with lots of responsibilities for them because they are just two and can be easier raising funds for them to have quality life and education. Having to invest my time on them and in them is what matters to me here.
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