Morals is part of what we learn as humans, and that must be inculcated in a child since childhood because it is part of what will guide such a child as he or she journeys in life. Every moral that I was brought up with and that I have tried to keep up with has impacted my life positively, no doubt.
Growing up in a Christian and strict home where a decent and godly way of living is expected, one of the things forbidden in my house is curse words or swearing. My parents can reset a child's brain if any of us dare use curse words or call ourselves animal names. I remembered the day my younger brother, the second son of the family, called his elder brother a gorilla; it was like he ignited my dad's wrath. That day he was beaten to a pulp. I wondered why he had to beat him in that manner; mere words of correction would have been enough. Then, after the beating, he was now corrected and warned sternly never to call any of his siblings anything related to animals, and the same goes for the rest of us.
One bad moral that I would have gotten used to is curse words. That is the correctional language in Kwara State; they correct virtually everything with curses, and I would have gotten used to that of not cautioning myself. I have seen where curse words lead to someone's death, and that day I was scared of the damages that curses can cause to one's life. I am always cautious about what I say. I tried my possible best to speak positively in every situation.
One moral that I will never give up, no matter how bad the situation, is pretending to be who I'm not to get sympathy. I will always be grateful to my dad for inculcating this moral in me as a child, which I still abide by today. I love being who I am, and I won't change for anything, though I've tried to change several times to no avail. It's not in my place to praise myself, but I must say, I am nice and kind, and people have taken undue advantage of this part of me over the years. Some see it as my weakness and use it against me. I just don't know how to say no to someone in need unless I don't have the means to help at that moment.
I tried to stop being this kind-hearted person that I am. I wish I could be wicked and callous and snub people even when I have the capability to help. Get back at anyone that hurts me and make them pay the price for hurting me, but then I can't, and that does hurt me. Since I can't change who I am, I decided to stick to being me and just let nature have it. Those that are destined to be good will be good, and those that won't will remain the same, but to pretend or change who I am to gain sympathy from people is one code of mine that I won't break.
Because I believe that people will love or help you irrespective of who you are, rather than pretend to be who you're not, after getting what you want or need, you then show who you truly are, which I will say is bad and unacceptable.
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