Hey guys
Welcome back to my blog. I found this interesting topic of the last weekly featured content from the #hive-learners. You can check out the question of the week here
It is indeed true that we are all wired differently, even though persons might be related by blood or even in marriage, differences in taste, needs and preference is always very evident.
It is the sole reason why we all possess different personalities. It is what makes each and every one of us peculiar and unique, it is also why no two persons have the same finger print.
Let’s take second to imagine we all behaved alike in this world, our likes and dislikes would be similar, our wants, needs and preferences would all be the same. Thinking about it for a moment, I can only imagine robots. We would all have to be on some type of scientific wiring to all act the same. It would be a very boring world indeed.
While growing up as children, we all remember how our siblings got on our nerves by just doing things at were totally opposite from what we wanted.
I remember then my sister loved to add salt to her garri when ever she wanted to have beans and garri or garri and groundnut. For me I could never stomach such, I preferred sugar and so I never ever ate that particular meals with her. I would rather make a plate for myself or eat with any other sibling that liked sugar in garri too.
Even when I was in the university, living with other roommates in the school hostel, seeing different personalities, with everyone having their own likes and dislikes, learning to tolerate the ones that weren’t compatible with mine and learning new things all together. It just shows the wonder of Gods creation, how He made us all different and uniquely. Then my roommates used to boil water before they had their baths, they would do anything it took to make sure they bathed with hot water but me I would just pick my bucket and go and take my bath because I never use hot water to bath, no matter the weather, you cannot catch me using hot water to bath. They taught it was strange and would always wonder if I wasn’t cold, but it was what my body system loved and I enjoyed the refreshing effect of taking my bath with cold water.
In marriage, our differences show the most. No matter how compatible a couple is, their differences are always more. For me in marriage I love to drink cold things, I love cold water a lot, but my partner is a room temperature kind of person, I love to use air conditioner to sleep, because I get hot easily and sweat easily, but he runs away from cold, small intake of fan air or air condition can change his body temperature and he begins to run temperature or even fall sick. Now ask me how we are coping in marriage with such big differences(Lol), even me I don’t know.
One thing that everyone does that I do not do, is watch television. Weird right?, because what else do you do then? You might ask. Right from time I am not a living room person, you would hardly find me sitting in the living room or turning on the television willingly. There was a day my partner complained that this habit of mine was bothering him because I don’t sit with him in the living room or watch tv with him. I tried to change a few times but after a while I will use style to go back to the room. Lol.
Even my parents complained about it a lot then as a child, I just don’t know how It became my habit but, I just developed this habit of always staying in the room, I love love love my bed, I don’t mind lying on it all day.
Now instead of watching television, you would always find me watching a movie series on my phone or doing other things with my phone. I easily get tired of looking at a television set, but I can never get tired of watching a series movie on my phone, as long as it has a complete season, I am all in, Or reading an E-book, or playing a virtual reality game.
Being wired differently isn’t a bad thing, I could go on and on and on abouty likes and dislikes and it wouldn’t match one thing on your own list of likes and dislikes. Being wired differently infact is what makes all of us fun to be with. However it is wrong to think that someone else’s preference or likes and dislikes is not relevant or term it as bad or inappropriate because you do not like the things the person likes. If you can’t learn to tolerate other peoples preferences then you need to go make your own island because as far as humans go we are all different and unique in our own ways.
I must also say if your preferences or habits are morally and sensibly negative or toxic then as an adult you should personally strive to be a better person for yourself and for your loved ones whose life you affect negatively.
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