It's been a long time since I wrote a LOH post - I have no idea why, and my main excuse is 'busy' - ouch. Also, sometimes I just look at the topics and draw blank, or I've written on similiar before. But this one - possessing someone with my ghost? It sounds like a fun one to contemplate.

One of my favourite insta comics posted this this week. I love @niall.breen.comics because he always nails my relationship with my husband. So much so that we've taken to call each other Mrs Frog and Mr Dog after the characters in this series. Yeah, we can be a little soppy like that. I guess we're always trying to find a way to say 'I love you', and sometimes shooting each other the link to Frog and Dog does just that.

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The comic above hit me in the feels. A guy in town died this week, one of the frequent attendees of our local garden meet ups, and his wife posted about it on Facebook, saying she had lost the most important man in her life and that her heart was broken. All over the world at any given moment people are saying goodbye to their loved ones. I was listening to a Nick Cave interview and one of the big lessons in his life was that everyone grieves someone in their lives - it's a pain that's unbearable and if you are lucky enough to be loved so much you will cause someone pain when you go as well. That's a shared human experience that unites us all, and makes our time with our loved ones all the more precious.

So when you get an opportunity to literally ghost someone, that is, take posession of them when you die, I can't go straight to making a nuisance of myself like a poltergeist. I'm probably going to give them a really big warm hug on the inside and do something about the pain, like make them go outside and see the beauty that exists in the world still, like rainbows and moonlight and sunrises and birdsong. Because the ordinary things in the world still keep on doing their beautiful ordinary things, despite our abscence, and it's our job to enjoy them for those who've departed and can see them no more. Once I've helped Jamie do that, I can move on to wherever it is I'm going, if anywhere at all. I have a funny feeling I'll just be flying about the place like pixie dust. Oneness and all that.

If I could possess others I think I'd go mad from the responsibility and stress of trying to make the world a better place. Chasing politicians about the world getting them to do the right thing would be a full time job. I'd need a whole ghost crew to help me out.

But maybe if we all got just one chance to possess one person, maybe we can make them see that all these mortal concerns of fame and pride and money are not worth chasing. It's the beauty on earth, the love we have for one another as fellow humans, that matters. And maybe one ghost will haunt the one person who can affect greater change, and maybe that one possession is enough for the world to put aside it's insanity, and be something better.