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There is this common saying in my environment " a problem shared is a problem halved" to me this statement depends on whom you share your problem with. Sometimes sharing a problem with someone can increase it. Something happened to me in 2020, I was sick and had an infection which I was treating, then there was this particular gathering that we were encouraged to share our life map. We called it "safe space". Innocently, I shared all I was passing through with my colleagues and others too did.
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I had forgotten about it not until I was going for an employment screening and have been given an employment letter only for me to do the final submission I was asked to see the management and I was led to the Director's office. On getting there, she told me they received an information that I have this illness and so I cannot work with them because I'm possibly going to infect them. I couldn't believe what I just heard. To my best knowledge I cannot cause any harm to people around me. If my infection was contagious they would have isolated me at the hospital and moreover I have been treated. I tried explaining to her but she wasn't even paying attention. Later I heard the information they got was that even my cough is dangerous.
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Thank God I knew what to do, I went to a state hospital, did all the necessary test and got a medical clearance that shows that I'm not a threat to people around but it was after serious heartbreak and nights of weeping before I could get a solution. I went back to the place and showed them all the medical test I did and my medical clearance, they took me to the organization's hospital and it was confirmed that I'm healthy and healed. I was given my appointment letter and restored to my position.
Many at times we are tempted to want to share our problems. If your problem is medical issue share it with medical practitioners, if it is spiritual, I will say share it with your God. I never knew what I shared at the "safe space" would be used against me. I remembered I had financial problem recently and I shared it with a very close friend of mine that borrowed me and that was how it was solved.
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Just this concluded month a colleague of mine at work had issue in her marriage and in other to heal she started sharing with almost everybody at work, there was hardly a morning that I wouldn't see her talking to different people about her marriage. I never knew what she was discussing with them until I was in the staff room and some of the people she told started discussing her that her husband beats her and he wants to send her packing, they were gossiping her and I felt sorry for her. People that she confided in are the ones making jest of her.
I know that there are times that we need to ease the burden on our minds, if you know that such a person cannot provide solution please keep the problem to yourself.
I learnt mine in a hard way. It would have led to depression for me if I wasn't vindicated.
Similar to this, is sharing with people that you know that they warned you about something prior to when that thing eventually happened. Example is maybe you were warned not to marry someone and that person eventually failed you at the end, you are already heartbroken, you don't need blames again, you are regretting the decision you took already. Don't share you problems with people that will blame you further because it might lead to deep depression and serious mental issues.
I pray for solutions to all who are passing through hard times right now. You will receive help and laugh again. Thanks for reading my post.
