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Whenever I talk about how I want to get married, I get weird stares from people.
I found this meme on WhatsApp that speaks my mind.
I mean, I get the people that want to have big weddings. The reason always being ”it happens once in a lifetime“. But that shouldn’t be reason for us to succumb to societal pressures. Most of these people can’t afford these weddings. They just want to make it big so that it will be said that that had a big wedding with whatever.
With the background I’m coming from, it’s something they take pride in. My aunts find joy in planning and organizing such big events. They don’t even need your opinion, just state the purpose and they will do everything else.
images from my brother’s wedding
Personally, I think it’s just a waste of money, energy and resources. The purpose of the ceremony is to witness the two people being joined together. I mean there should be entertainment but it should not be to just show off to people. The money spent on these things sets off some marriages on the wrong foot. Their first headache right after the wedding is how to pay off their debts.
I’ve witnessed quite a few ceremonies mostly because I don’t really like being at these places with everyone else around, watching and commenting on every little thing you do.
pictures from a cousin’s wedding
What I’ve also realized is that, some of these brides don’t even want all that. They don’t want the big celebrations and inviting all these unnecessary guests but they can’t do anything about it. They just sit there and unwillingly agree to what the aunties say.
I just recently heard of a cousin getting married and I looked at the program line up of the whole event and I instantly knew she wouldn’t like any of this but it’s been done anyway.
pictures from another cousin’s wedding
Sometimes I feel like if they want to do those things so bad, then they should get married again and do it😏.
Funny thing though, some of them have recently got remarried and I didn’t see any big things going on. Meaning they are well aware of the fact that these things costs tons of money and they wouldn’t do it for themselves.
This is the time you would hear them saying “oh we just want to do something small, invite a few people. The important thing is to just get the marriage sealed.” So why can’t they reason like that when it comes to we the younger ones. They just want to do anything that they couldn’t do for themselves knowing so well that the money isn’t coming from them.
They would say “this has to be the talk of the town, we have to show them we are ahead of them and can’t be on the same level, this person did this so we have to do extra “ but who are these “people” that are constantly talked about?
Same people that you are trying so hard to impress will still find some trashy thing to say about the whole event. They can start a fight over the least insignificant thing and that becomes all that is talked about and no one remembers you spent all this money to impress them. Money that could have been used for beneficial purposes after the wedding.
pictures from yet another cousin’s wedding
I guess I would never stop if I continue thinking and writing about these things.
But if you’ve made it this far, lemme know what your Dream wedding is.
