Good morning everyone,I just stole this moment to tell my story being a father.Am not a single parent but am telling this story from my perspective.
At first when I got married,I envisaged a beautiful home with my wife and 3 lovely kids (2boys and a girl),but do you know it takes determination,focus, consistency and hard work to achieve a wonderful family.
When my wife got pregnant for our our first baby,we planned everything that needed to be planned,gender, wardrobe, clothes, color of clothes, diapers,etc.
At 5months, we've bought everything that was needed to buy,packed her delivery bag,etc,we ordered stuff online,high quality stuff, anticipation was high,my thought was filled with "so am going to be a father in a couple months".
My wife and I started talking about how our lives will change when our new born come into the world and that was a very delicate and serious discussion not to be swept under the carpet.
Now our beautiful bouncing baby girl have arrived and automatically everything we talked about has been put into action:
- No vulgar language or words.
- No indecent dressing in the house.
- Type of music to listen to.
- Kinds of programs to watch on TV.
- Alcohol intake in the house.
- Watching more of children educative programs,etc.
The presence of our little Princess changes everything, even when am damn tired, when I look at her gorgeous smile,it lifts my spirit and immediately,every pressure during the course of the day disappears and you can attest that their smile is contagious.
MY NIGHT SLEEP
Well,you can attest that whenever you've a new born, your night sleep is hijacked,you cannot sleep as usual,for me ,I wake in between like 6-8 times before 6am, the moment she turns,am awake,if she giggles,I stand up,if she begins to kick am awake,if she makes a sound, I jump up to cuddle her.
All these tell on me when it's 7am,I feel very tired and at the same time have to prepare for work.
And it's so funny that she sleeps better when it's 6am.....But funny enough,am the more sensitive one when it comes to detecting when she defecates or pee in her diapers.
Am a specialist in changing her diapers
While at this,she looks straight into my eyes,tries to kick me... Lol.
She's a Princess indeed,she cries when she's hungry, when her diapers is wet,or when she's trying to sleep.
BREAST FEEDING
Well,this part is where mother and baby bond,her first week was a nightmare because her nipples were soar from constant suckling,I feel very sad each minute she cries and want to suck and it gets worse when my wife remembers she has to breast feed her.
She screams as our baby latches out on the innocent nipples...... Lol.
The moment she's filled,she falls asleep,I carry her to her cradle to lay her down.
MY ATTENTION NEEDED
At this point,my wife, daughter,house chores and work are all calling my attention.
Meanwhile, this is where it takes Diplomacy, wisdom and love to give time to all these.
Money has to be made to run the house and family.
I need to know how my wife is handling the pressures on motherhood as a first time mum.
Most times she feels very tired from breastfeeding,I do most house chores,cook,go to the market, clean,wash,carry our baby , change her diaper,etc.
All these I do when I return from work,I must advice,if you're not ready to make changes these and embrace them, don't bring any baby into the world to suffer.
Most times I fill her mouth with her Pacifier just to make her stop crying.
BEDTIME TALK
This is the part that keeps the family together,my wife and I usually have our pillow talk at night before going to bed and when we wake up in the morning,we talk about the things that happened in the course of the day and talk about our plans and how to go about achieving them.
At this point mummy is tired and sleep off even before am out of the bathroom.
So we talk about everything in the morning either before morning devotion or after devotion.
In summary, fatherhood has been a game changer to me and my wife,it's a beautiful experience and how they grow is so rapid,fast and before you know it, they're already going to school.
Am proud to be a father of this beautiful Princess and my beautiful wife.
