I know it has been a while I had published in this community, but in order not be so far away, I chose to use this community to pour out my thoughts. For today, I share my thoughts on the topic; Why do we keep relationships with people? What really is the essence of our circle of friends..
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I know that many relationships or friendships doesn't last because it is not based on a factor that is important to both individuals. Some only try to make friends with you because it is beneficial to them for being your friend but really, do they really care about you or how you do? do they even really ask or just ask casually?
This is why when we allow people close to us, they would only be around us for the main being because they are yet to see what they want from us and surely, after they get what they want, then they vanish. You would not even sight their break light.
What inspired this topic was due to a discussion with a friend of mine who was telling me a scenario of people only caring to be close just because they want something from them and not just because they even care at all. True, I agree you make friends with people that can impact your life but as yourself, what can I do to help this person vice versa.
From my definition of friendship, this is when people are there to support each other, give advices that help each other out and not be focused on monetary reward alone or let's say, personal gain.
I really appreciate the circle of friends I have developed. Although, I have many friends but I am little friends. In this world today, people who you may have met quite often may be called termed friends. I see it as just a name that I know this person, but believe me if you are my friend, it is not only based on just knowing you alone.
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Most of the time you need to define the circle of friends of people you have around. There is a saying that; WE ATTRACT WHAT WE ARE. If we are the kind of person who support a friend most likely we may get the same response back. Although, in the kind of world we are in, people may be unpredictable, they may just vanish at the point when you need them the most.
I appreciate @josediccus and @k-banti because these two guys have been awesome in my life. Hive made me know @josediccus and we grew to not just become online friends but get to meet in the physically and hangout often as well. While for @k-banti, I have known him for years; about 5 years now if not more. They are the type of guys in which I can tell almost everything, in fact everything because we are supportive to each other. We share ideas, we share thoughts and feelings.
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Definitely, my circle is not restricted to this two alone, I have many other friends that I can relate this to both Hive and physical, but I believe we have the test of time to see how far our relationships can go and how strong it can be.
Just note, if you notice your circle is not an healthy relationship, friendship is not by force; move on. Don't stay in a relationship that is not focused on helping each other grow but only focused to the benefit of one person alone. If you are that person, also you should learn to be of help to your friend and not be so selfish (if that's the best word to use).
WHO IS STARSTRINGS01
Starstrings01 AKA Giftedhands is a Hive lover, a Nigeria musician (Guitarist) and also a student who studies Mechatronics Engineering in the Federal University of Agriculture, Abeokuta.
His goal on Hive is to be more than a regular blogger but something more; someone with a purpose. That’s one of the reasons why he founded the newbies initiative @newbies-hive to help guide and support newbies. Kindly click here to follow @newbies-hive curation trail.
He battles and struggles with balancing education and being active on the chain but yet his love and passion for Hive keeps him on balance.