The definition of love keeps chamging over the time. From friendship to physical relationships to strong emotional bonding. It means different to various individuals. The first definition of love that I learnt was after watching a movie, which says love is friendship. But with each stage in life the definition keep changing. Until, I found the true meaning. Looking at todays generation, I doubt if they are really in "love"?. Love is a strong bonding of togetherness and it cannot be characterised or judged on any kind of agreement.
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I belongs from from a orthodox traditional family, who alwsys supports arranged marriages. There are no place of love life before marriage, unlessnyou are in fun and enjoyment mood. People often doubt on the success of arranged marriage due to absence of love but our culture always supports this form of marriages and have seen a good success rate over the year. The trading has been in places since ages and there are no hurdles in finding each of were completelly success.
Arranged marriages in India
In an arranged marriage, love often blossoms through a gradual process of getting to know each other, building trust, sharing experiences, and discovering compatibility. The couples slowly develop deep feelings over time rather than experiencing an immediate passionate love at first sight. Which is very common in todays generation. The couples goals is achieved by focusing on shared values, mutual respect, and open communication.
What I like most is that, unlike love marriages, arranged couples often have a period where they actively get to know each other's personalities, interests, and life goals, which allows for a deeper understanding to develop over time. Many couples prioritize building a strong friendship first, which lays the groundwork for romantic feelings to emerge naturally. As I can see in recent case,
where my neice gets engaged through arranged marriage. And now both of them were develop strong bond by spending quality times over phone or video calls. They are trying to understand each and searching compatibility, which they already found.
By navigating life together, couples in arranged marriages often bond through shared challenges, celebrations, and everyday routines. Recognizing each other's strengths and qualities, even if they were not initially attracted to each other, can lead to a deeper respect and admiration. Family involvement in an arranged marriage can provide guidance and encouragement for the couple as they navigate their new relationship. The journey always remain eventful and joyful throughout the life span.
Modern love a casual affair
Modern day love is often characterized by a greater emphasis on individual autonomy. Modern love prioritizes personal fulfillment and self-expression, where individuals seek partners who support their individual goals and aspirations, rather than solely relying on a partner for identity and validation. Dating apps and social media platforms have significantly altered how people meet and interact with potential partners, allowing for wider access and more casual connections. Open relationships, "friends with benefits", and non-monogamous arrangements are becoming more accepted, allowing for flexibility in relationship structures. The ease of access to potential partners on dating apps can lead to higher expectations and a tendency to quickly move on if a relationship doesn't meet idealized standards.
No place for prenuptial agreement
There are many instances where couples found love over internet, headed to live-in relation and ultimately ended up in disputes over time. The success rate is too low to mention as far as my knowledge. Live-in relation is more or loke an agreement where the couple wanted to know eachbother compatibility. Which is sort of prenuptial agreement. However, In India, prenuptial agreements are generally not legally enforceable due to the lack of specific laws governing them and the cultural perspective on marriage as a sacred bond. A prenuptial agreement is not considered necessary before marriage in most situations, as it can be seen as a sign of distrust in a relationship. In India, live-in relationships are not legally recognized as marriage, so they cannot be considered equivalent to a prenuptial agreement.
In my opinion, the old tradition and culture are alwsys the best and accepting them whole heartedly, leads to a happier life. Love itself does not inherently "need" an agreement, as love is a complex emotion that can exist without formal contracts or stipulations.
In good faith - Peace
