When it comes to meeting new people and making friends, I am always wary of the type of people that I come across and the reason being that I do not know exactly how that person would turn out to be in my life.
I do not know what impact the person would have in my life, I do not know what lessons need to be learnt from that person being in my life and I do not know the manner in which I would have to learn such a lesson, would it be the hard way or the easy way.
This is what I think of each time I meet a new people that want to be friends with me and because I am always wary of these things, I find it very hard to open up and socialize so usually I come off as cold to people, these days I do not care anymore as I have come to find out that it actually guarantees my peace of mind.
I will be sharing a story about how someone that I considered my friend blamed me for something that was entirely her fault and she covered it with these words:
“I always speak my mind no matter what happens"
A TRUE STORY...
This friend of mine and I met in our freshman year of university and we easily kicked things off and eventually, we coincidentally moved into the same dormitory, we were both given rooms on the same floor but we were not roommates, we were neighbors.
This only helped us get closer to each other also with the fact that we were coursemates. All was good and fine even when I noticed that I was the type of person to plan my activities for the day in a detailed manner and she was not. I noticed that many times when we would agree to go to class together especially on an important day, like the day to submit an important assignment or something, she wouldn't be ready in time which would make us go a little bit later than planned, or if we eventually went early as planned, she would forget something important and would have to go back to get it.
I had no idea that she blamed me for her forgetfulness until one fateful day. As usual, that day was an important day because we had an exam and we also had to submit an assignment before the exam commenced. Being the orderly person that I am, I already had my books packed for the day the night before so that I wouldn't be bothered by it while rushing in the morning, I had no idea that it was supposed to be my responsibility to also think ahead for my friend.
When we got to class and we were waiting for the exams to commence, she realized that she forgot her assignment, so she had to dash back to the dorm to get it which made her commence her exam late. During the exam, we were placed in the same corner and it was a tough one which we were all struggling with. As expected of a student, I wrote my name and registration number before submitting my paper and I went about my business.
It was on the way back to the dorm that my friend realized that she didn't write her name and registration number before submitting, so she began to panic. Fast forward to when we got to the dormitory and we went out separate ways, I went to my room to drop my stuff then I went back to her room to talk to her, only for me to walk in on her telling her roommates how I was a bad friend because I didn't remind her to write her name and also remind her to take her assignment with her.
It hurt me because she was saying all that behind my back and I wouldn't have known if I hadn't walked in at that moment. I couldn't believe that she actually blamed me for her forgetfulness, I was shocked.
All she told me was:
“You know that I will always speak my mind and I don't hide anything,"
I felt cheated.
I felt used.
And I vowed never to let her into my life again.
She moved out of the dormitory at the end of the session and I made sure to distance myself from her enough that the connection we once had became thin.
Now, we are just coursemates, nothing more.
That was a lesson learned, in a very harsh way but it is also the worst reason I have let go of someone when usually I forgive and forget.
I chose not to forget this time.
