Okay, enough about my man, have you met his mum? She’s one of the sweetest humans I’ve met. She is not my mother-in-law but my mother-in-love. She doesn’t see me as her son’s wife, but her daughter. She loves me like her own and is very proud of me within and outside the family.
In fact, before I got married to my husband, she made sure she reminded him of how it was important he knows how to do a lot of things because his wife, (me) should be properly cared for.
At some point, when his son wouldn’t listen to her, she says, “I didn’t train you to make your wife suffer when you eventually get married to that sweet girl. So, if you know you won’t take care of her, it is better you let her be alone.” When my man told me this, I knew I was about to have the best mother-in-law ever, and indeed she is.
My mother-in-love has become my second mum. She doesn’t joke with me or anything relating to me. She supports my goals and aspirations just like my husband does. She doesn’t allow even my husband to scold me. Well, you can call me “spoilt”.
My mother-in-love would visit us with bags of food monthly and wouldn’t stay back because she doesn’t want our privacy invaded. In her defense, she would visit when we have our baby and at that time, she can stay for long. For now, there’s no reason for me to be here for long. Oh, my sweet mother-in-law.
Oh well, before I got married, I have visited my married friends. Some of them, I have vowed not to ever visit them again, and to some others, visiting them is one thing I look forward to, even though I’ve not been there in a very long time.
One of my friends who gave birth to twins via CS was deeply crucified by her mother-in-law for not giving birth like the Hebrews and wasted her son’s limited resources. In her words, “the money could’ve been used for something more profitable like establishing business for her or his siblings if she had tried to birth the children on her own.
The husband is a busy man, so it was his mother who was always with my friend and the babies. My friend is an orphan, so whatever it was, she knew there’s nothing to be done than to accept her even though it was painful.
I visited my friend nine days after she gave birth and what I saw, I knew I was never going back there if the mother-in-law was still around, because I could mistakenly talk.
Just nine days after she gave birth, she did a truckload of laundry and I was shocked. I asked her who did the laundry, and she responded that she did. I smiled, and jokingly said, why not employ someone to do that for you? Well, her mother-in-law wouldn’t agree to that.
According to her, the mother-in-law was complaining bitterly to her son that my friend wasn’t taking proper care of her. She expected that my friend cooked variety of delicacies because she had to abandon her home where she enjoyed all those to stay with her and the newborn, so she should be responsible for her as much as possible. She also blamed my friend for not giving her as much money from the gifts for the children because apparently, both of them are the ones caring for the kids.
There are mother-in-law(s) and there are mother-in-love(s), and mine, even though I’m not married yet will be the latter.
I’m awake now, and I’m back to enjoying my single life while waiting for the man of my dreams with my sweet mother-in-love.
This is my entry to InLeo prompt for today.
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