Greetings friends of hive🥰💕.
I believe everyone of us went through one discipline or the other while growing up because I know there will never be any parents who did not discipline their wards in any kind of way they choose due to how its the duty and responsibility of parents to always guide their children towards up bringing. My mother will discipline me by not allowing me to visit my girl friends for a while because I did not come back at the agreed time she gave me the last time I visited them. She does not need to shout nor scold me. All she will tell me is you breached our agreement so you are grounded for the next two or three weeks. And I never breached this agreement or others as time goes on.
Parenting is indeed s huge responsibility which is why disciplining a child is very important and one priority that should not be joked with but must not be by always heating a child or even shouting at them on every wrong thing they did or every mistakes because I believe children will always be children and its in the hands of parents to teach their children the right and wrong. But discipline should be a step towards making a child see why doing the wrong things especially at tender age is misleading. And catching them young is the best we need do as parents knowing what will work best.
As a mother of two grown teenagers , I can tell you that spanking a child every time he or she makes a mistake should not be seen as the best way to discipline a child because even as times are changing, children are changing with times. I see discipline as a kind of training that we as parents should instill in our children through subtle ways, which can come in form of one on one advice especially when they are of age , letting them know the harms associated with some certain behaviors and involvements. This advice can also come in the form of warning, which makes it very obvious to the child that next time will not be gentle again since every body makes first time mistake.
Although when my children were smaller, I usually threatened them with my long cane anytime they do something wrong. And seeing how scared 😱 they always are whenever they see the can, I will shout and warn anyone involved which with time made things easier as they were growing up. But beating them definitely happens once in a while and must be something I could not stand. I don’t use to spank them every time they misbehave because this very method I feel toughen children and can cause afterwards harm in a child 👧.
I see nothing wrong with parents pampering their children because pampering is one thing that brings parents and children close and together which helps parents understand their children more and well enough, knowing what a child can do and what they can not, knowing how to support a child who needs help. And this bond can also help children most times confide in their parents when there is danger because when parents are two strict with their children, some will become so secretive to the extent that they do things that are so alarming without their parents knowing. I can tell you that when we make our children to understand why they need to be disciplined in a mild subtle manner, while being loved ❤️and pampered, they quickly resonate with their parents, not seeing it or taking it as hate.
However, I have come to believe that children who will grow up being well behaved even without much discipline will always live up to expectations of what parents desire despite how they were while growing up considering that times are changing and many are also changing with times. Kids of this generation are more opportune with less hard punishment discipline because of how awareness of things that can cause them make more mistakes are seen before hands. Any child that wants to be good will definitely become well behaved and vice versa is the case.
This is my response to the #hivelearners featured content for week 140, edition 03 tagged “Parents And Discipline”.
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