Good evening everyone,
So for day 16,the prompt says "An elaborate wedding or a small gathering of family and close friends"
Hey People, you have heard this kind of story before? Big elaborate wedding or small family and friends gathering? This is question that burst brain for many couples these days.
I myself, I will tell you that I love big wedding like seriously. Even though my own wasn't that kind, anytime I see big Nigerian wedding, it sweet me for belly. Hehe You know how we do it in Nigeria now - it will be loud, it will be sweet, food and drinks very plenty, aso-ebi will be on point, and music will boom from morning till night!
Imagine it: First, you will see the bride and groom walking into the hall with style. The Bride will wear a beautiful white gown and also for the trad, she will dress so fine, the groom will deck inside the agbada that is so set. Then family and friends will be hailing them as they walk past. "My life oh! ", "See beauty! ", "My brother won the hammer at last!"
As they get to the dance floor, the DJ will play a match up of songs. You know that kind beat that will make even your grandma stand up and shake her body. Before you know it, everywhere will full with people. Some spray money, others will form a circle around the couple dancing their heart off.
In a corner, you will see mammoth pots of jollof rice, plenty of moi-moi, asun that is still smoking, and egusi soup that thick pass cement. People will rush food like say a Last Supper. And don't forget drinks, oh! Beer, chapman, zobo, every kind thing will flow like River Niger.
But wait, oh, not only jolly and chop-chop are available at a big wedding. There are other things that happening too:
- Plenty of wahala for planning: To organize a big wedding is not moi-moi oh. You have to run up and down like a headless chicken, trying to balance family wahala, choose a venue, pick a menu, and handle a million other things.
- Money that will be spent no be here: Big weddings require big money. From hall rent to food to drinks to music to everything, your pocket will feel it, that is certain.
- There will be Pressure :When a wedding is big like that, expectations will be high. You will be under pressure to make everything perfect. Small mistakes, tongues will start to wag.
- Family palava: As guest lists grow, so family politics will increase. Who to invite, who to sideline, who will vex if you do not call them - that is a whole wahala on its own.
But for people that like it big, all this wahala is worth it. They will say it's a once in a lifetime thing, so make it loud!
On the other hand, some people will prefer a small wedding with just family and close friends. They get their own reasons too:
- It is intimate: With a small crowd, couples spend quality time with everybody. No need to rush to greet people that you don't know.
- It saves money: Instead of spending millions in one day, couples can use that money to do other important things like buy a house or start a business.
- Less wahala: Small weddings mean less things to plan and less things to worry about. It will reduce stress well.
- It still feels sweet: Not that because a wedding is small means that it won't be sweet. With the right people around, small weddings can be sweeter than a big one.
At the end of day, it is not the size of the wedding that matters.its the love between couple and support from family and friends.
So, whether a big Owambe you want to do or small family gathering, make sure to do what you and your partner want. Don't let anybody force you to do what you don't like. Wedding is supposed to be a happy day, not a competition.
If you have the money and you like big weddings, then ballout! Invite everybody and their mama, chop life, make everywhere scatter! But if you prefer a quiet ceremony with just your people, that one is okay too. The most important thing is that you are married and you are happy.
I have said my piece on this oh! What do you think? Do you prefer big weddings or small family gathering?
