This is a follow up to the last episode of the Love and sexuality podcast - Love and sexuality podcast #5 - What do you consider a red flag?, where I and @chrinnox discussed red flags and concluded that the best thing to do would be to take a break from such relationship while evaluating what you want from a relationship with what you're getting at the moment.
With more time put into reflection and observation, I realised that it's easy to give advice to people in situations without actually being there, hence I realised that the best solution wouldn't be to simply take a break or end the relationship. That solution would only work theoretically.
Relationships have to do with our emotions which require time to build. Time, energy, money and many other things have been invested into the relationship at some point, therefore it wouldn't be so easy to let go because our emotions will always be at play regardless of how logical we can be.
The best solution would be to discuss some of these imperfections or red flags you've observed with your partner in a very soothing way, after which your partners response will decide if the relationship should continue or not.
If your partner is accepts your opinion regarding the observed red flags and is willing/able to take necessary steps into correcting those imperfections where necessary, then the can continue but if not, then maybe it's time to let go.
The solution is not as simple as letting your partner go as soon as red flags are observed, but with effective communication, things can be resolved. Letting your partner go should only be on the condition that he/she is not willing to accept a red flag exists. That would be my definition of a one-sided relationship.
Feel free to drop your comment/opinion in the comment section.
See you on the next one.
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Previous episodes of the Love and Sexuality Podcast!
Love and Sexuality Podcast #1- Communication in relationships
Love and sexuality Podcast #2- Misconception on exposing children to sex education
Love and sexuality Podcast #3- Pansexuality from the African perspective
Love and sexuality Podcast #4- Expressing your love interest as an African woman!
Love and sexuality Podcast #5- What do you consider a red flag?
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