Argument is a sign of misunderstanding and altercation between two or more individuals; it's not a healthy thing to engage in and often leads to more rift and disagreement and the like, although on a few occasions argument has helped clear the air and gives room for both parties to air their grievances and opinions and could ultimately help everyone understand the stand of others and come to a resolution, but that's very rare. I'm not a fan of arguments, and today I'll love to tell you how I handle such.
To start with, I'm not the type of person who loves to talk too much or indulge in lengthy conversations, and so when it comes to delivering my job or task, I tried as much as possible to do it well and on time, so there won't be a need for me to be questioned regarding why I didn't do it or not do it well, and so after concluding my duties, I tried to relate in peace with everyone without getting into an argument with them, but as we all know, argument can't be avoided as you'll find yourself in one knowing or unknowing.
In a situation where I got into an argument with someone, like I said, I'm not a man of many words, so in the advent that I'm trying to explain my side of the story to aid your understanding and clear the air, but the person I'm trying to explain to isn't yielding, I tend to just pick up my things and step away for awhile, because being in such a place where only the voice of the other person matters can lead to me getting angry and uttering words I might not be proud of.
So on most occasions, I just walk away, but all arguments and my reactions to them depend on the subject matter that led to the argument. For instance, a few months ago at work, one of my superior offices ridiculed me in front of everyone by saying I'm lazy and unwilling to engage in any activities. This is a statement that annoys me, and I believe keeping quiet will only confirm his words, while leaving also won't save my image, and so I decided to engage in a conversation with him.
He's a man that's notable for diminishing the effort of everyone because he's close to the principal and that one tends to believe him, unknown to her that he's the one who only does eye service but won't do his work as expected. Also, after saying those words against me with anger, I immediately asked him if he had ever given me a task that I didn't do, and there and then he was speechless and said no, But I wasn't assisting my department boss.
Again, I asked if my department boss complained to him, and he said no, but he's only assuming because he doesn't see me joining her in performing some tasks, and I told him point blank that if he doesn't know something, he shouldn't jump to conclusions, and even if he does that to others, then he should make me an exception because even though I'm quiet and tend to do my things quietly, I won't appreciate being lied against.
That very day he was dumpfounded, but I've said my mind, and that argument wouldn't even have happened if he hadn't decided to throw shed at me without fact. Well, that's just me; except in a situation when I'm wrongly accused, I might not even utter a word, but instead keep quiet or just leave that vicinity, but when you accuse me wrongly, I'll definitely give you all it takes while defending myself.
But then, in conclusion, it's worth noting that being in an argument with others isn't good or healthy at all; in fact, it can lead to the end of such a relationship, friendship, and the like, and so in order to maintain our relations with others, we should try as much as possible to settle things in a friendly manner rather than engage in any argument that might shatter such friendship.
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