Who Are You, Really? Reflecting on Identity and Authenticity

If someone asks you to describe yourself, how would you answer? Some might say, “I’m a doctor,” “I’m a lawyer,” or “I’m a business owner.” For me, I might say, “I’m a single mom of three kids. I have a degree in Tourism, though my current work is in a completely different field. I’m a breadwinner. I’m the eldest daughter.”

But if we set aside these titles and roles, do we really know who we are?

This question made me pause and reflect: Who am I, beyond what I do or the roles I play? Slowly, I’ve been rediscovering myself. I’ve realized that I tend to be a pushover and a people pleaser because I don’t want to disappoint others. But I’m working on setting boundaries and putting my needs first when necessary. If we don’t vibe or share the same values, then it’s not worth my time.

I love nature and find solace in its beauty. I’m a bit impatient and dislike deadlines, if I need to do something, I will get it done as soon as possible. I’m the type of person who will “Google it” or research anything I don’t know. Whether it’s a question or a topic that sparks my interest, I won’t stop until I find the information I need; otherwise, I can’t stay still. Ironically, I’m also bad at planning—maybe because I’m impatient and want results right away. If things don’t go as planned the first time, I tend to feel disheartened. Still, I know for sure that I am spontaneous and adventurous. I’m not the girly type and I’ve always been one of the boys. I’m someone who value friendship and I consider myself an old soul.

Writing is a passion of mine, but only when inspiration strikes. Music is another love, and I can’t choose a favorite song because I enjoy pieces from all genres. I’m sentimental and drawn to beautiful words, whether in lyrics, spoken poetry, or heartfelt prose. I’m a crybaby, quick to tears, and my heart is soft. Yet, I am also brave and strong.

So, how about you? If someone asked who you are, would you have an answer ready? If not, that’s okay. You have your whole life ahead of you. I hope you take the time to rediscover, understand, and truly know yourself—not through the lens of what others think of you, but by how you perceive and define yourself. After all, only you can answer the question of who you really are.

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