Letting Go

in #story7 months ago

It’s crazy how sometimes one small thing will set you on an entirely different path. Some would argue it’s nothing more than the universe leading you to where you wanted to be in the first place.

YouTube’s algo planted this video on my home screen this past Monday. I guess it was because I’ve been binging travel videos about Japan for a future trip and watching lots of content about tiny homes.

Although I would never want to live as minimalistic as the man in black featured in the video, he inspired me to reevaluate my possessions. Thinking back across the past decade I’ve always had these kinds of thoughts right before a major life transition, the last being when we sold our house in 2015 and moved into a small apartment.

For me it’s always a mixture of good intentions and sentimentality that causes me to hang onto things I don’t need and will never use.

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Amstel "supervising" one of my writing sessions in 2013.


For example, I’ve kept a 2010 Macbook Pro that hasn’t worked for seven years. The battery stopped working and eventually swelled, bending the outer case and making the laptop unsalvageable.

It was the laptop I wrote my first novel on, the one I carried with me to my first trip to Europe, and then it accompanied me on my second overseas trip. This was the laptop I used to learn all about cryptocurrency and made my first transactions.

It meant a lot to me.

See, this is exactly this kind of thinking that causes me to save too many things. This is precisely why I’ll never be like that Japanese uber-minimalist.

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On Wednesday I mustered the courage to cut through the sentimentality and I finally parted with my beloved laptop. I pried out the hard-drive with my trusty Leatherman multitool, beat it to a pulp with a hammer, then took the photo above just before I chucked it into our condo building’s electronics recycling bin.

It was such a freeing feeling. I’ve had this general feeling of being “stuck” on so many levels for a few years. Shedding this one material thing sparked a chain reaction. It was just the first of many possessions I’ve gotten rid of this week. Whether it’s psychosomatic or not, I feel like whatever was making me feel frozen is becoming dislodged.

I was hanging onto a piece of my past because, somewhere deep in the crevices of my subconscious I sincerely believed that I peaked and my best days were behind me. Now I feel slightly more “unstuck”, a little more ready for whatever is next.

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I love this quote because I think it’s true. Not that any of us will ever achieve perfection but in our journey of becoming our truest selves it’s much more about subtraction than adding things in. By the time most of us reach middle age have this strata of bullshit weighing down our souls – false assumptions, responsibilities, insecurities, desires, goals, dreams, perceptions, worries, and the like.

If we're lucky, this journey of life is longer than we can possibly imagine. There are twists, turns, and unforeseen events. Sometimes your future can change in a blink. We don't just have one act, we often end up having two, three, or even more. We can go much further and faster if we lighten our loads. Sometimes when the future seems uncertain, all we have to do is let go of the past.

~Eric Vance Walton~

Be well and make the most of this day. Thank you for reading!

(Photos are original.)


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I understand how hard that can be. I recently cleaned out some of our electronics from the basement. I have a recycle ruck that comes when I call and we send ids pallets of electronics every couple of months.

Do you mean from your workplace?

Yes, they come to work but I take stuff from home there too. I have a little more faith when I dispose of it that way.

That's a smart way to do it!

Sometimes it can really be difficult to let go of that which we are attached to take for example your beloved laptop in this case because we have been so much used to it

I'm one for keeping things that have meant so much to me in the past, and even when they are no longer useful, they become keepsakes. I think it's time to 'decollect'. ☺️

you focused on the importance pf letting go of the past and also move forward in your daily life. your shared quote about the journey of becoming one's true self.

Loved this, Eric! I'm decluttering at the moment too. It's a process. But I agree... when you let go of something that you never thought you'd part with and then see the space and possibility open up in your life, it feels so damn good!!! Ah... and breathe... Clear desk, clear mind truly translates well on a broader scale. I have an old HP laptop that it taking up space. I think I need to do the same. Take out the hard drive, destroy it, and bin the entire thing. Thank you for the encouragement!

I dropped in from Dreemport this evening.

#dreemerforlife

That quote about perfection really breakdown that the meaning behind it as this is what we experience as humans in our daily lives.

I am not sure for a tiny house, but I would love to live in a caravan and go wherever I want in summer, leaving all behind...

Oh yeah, I definitely want to get a camper van at some point. It would be nice to have the option of hitting the road for weeks or months at a time.

It's just like these countries are very advanced and people's lives have been made much easier here. Our country is two years behind in terms of technology.

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Poignant post! We have a house full of things kept for various sentimental reasons, a surprising number of them kept for sentimental reasons relating to events that never actually happened.

As often as not, I think we keep things because they somehow bring to mind a way we were feeling when we were using them. In a similar spirit as your laptop, I actually have a clear plastic bin labeled "electronic debris" which contains several generations of laptops going back to one of the earliest "bricks" I had. They stopped working for a variety of reasons, mostly related to the power supplies, and for years I have been telling myself that "one of these days" I'm going to get the hard drives out of there and scrape any useful information off of them. But with each passing year, it seems less and less likely that I will ever do so.

In a sense, simply getting rid of them would not only free up the physical space and remove that weight, but it would also remove the weight of the eternal "scrape those hard drives" from my mental to-do list. After all, I've lived perfectly well for nearly two decades without the information that's there!

It actually felt so good to get rid of this laptop. My plan was to replace the battery and load Linux on it but then the old battery swelled and completely destroyed the aluminum case. I have so many more things to get rid of!

What a cute amstel. He was a very loyal dog. I think you must have a lot of memories with Amstel. Have a nice day, Eric

He was my supervisor during my writing sessions! : ) I hope you enjoyed your weekend Eliana!

I remember seeing and relating to that quote about perfect once before.
It's such a beautiful explanation.


I pried out the hard-drive with my trusty Leatherman multitool, beat it to a pulp with a hammer

This was funny to read 😂😂

Having those gadget like the laptop is always very important as we really can't do without them as there are many important things that needs to be saved for future purposes.

Yeah, the Mac thing; I totally get it! I have two Macbook Pro from 2012 and I love to work on them. I wiped macOS from both a long time ago and installed Linux. Had to change batteries, vents and the keyboard on one of them but I love the fact that nothing is glued together like nowadays. I guess that's also part of why I like the Framework laptop.

Uuuu, that Japanese guy and his minimalistic approach to life is rad. It makes you walk around the house and assess your accumulated "treasures" 🤣

That was my plan for this one (to swap the battery and add Linux) until the old battery swelled and destroyed the case. I love the keyboard action on that gen of Macs. The new generation isn't serviceable at all and the recent news that has come out about the in-house Apple (M) chip vulnerabilities are downright scary.

Yeah, the guy is just so extreme! He did inspire me to shed a few things though. : )

True to your words, somethings dear to us can never be detached from us, no matter how old they are or if it is an irreparable one. We treasure it. Even if we get a new one, this thing lies in a corner for some more time, for the right time to come

I haha the same issues and in fact I have my first laptop that I ever bought on upstairs gathering first because it's alchemy and goosed. I think I will do the same.

I lol'd because when I do eventually bin things like this I do as you do and smash the hard drive up with a hammer 😀😀

Wow, that's incredible! Our son has a 13 year old Windows laptop he still uses. That thing is built like a tank compared to today's laptops. Macs are usually only good for about ten years in my experience. I think my next laptop will be a tablet (iPad or Surface) though. I think they're finally good enough to use for everything.

I'm so paranoid when it comes to the hard drives. I was pretty ignorant about security during my first few years in crypto. There's no way they're getting anything off that hard drive now. It's pretty much unrecognizable. Lol.

It was the laptop I wrote my first novel on, the one I carried with me to my first trip to Europe, and then it accompanied me on my second overseas trip. This was the laptop I used to learn all about cryptocurrency and made my first transactions.

Then it's a special one, a special device for sure, you have unique memories with it.

I pried out the hard-drive with my trusty Leatherman multitool, beat it to a pulp with a hammer, then took the photo above just before I chucked it into our condo building’s electronics recycling bin.

Glad that you preserved the vital things, precisely the memory that you can recollect.

I love this quote because I think it’s true.

I have bookmarked this quote.

By the time most of us reach middle age have this strata of bullshit weighing down our souls

Yes, at times, it holds us back to realize at what age are we trading in, and we need to accept the reality, and live in the present.

Thank you so much Sir, once again something to learn from your blog. Actually, I also have sold laptop, not working but because of my past attachment I am not being able to dispose it of.

Have a great day.

Thanks, I hope you enjoyed your weekend!

Have a great week ahead Sir.

Thank you.

🙏🙏🙏🙏

oh, it's really sad to see that you needed to put that laptop into the garbage. I am also having a MacBook, but i am a pC lover, i am thinking. Will i need to do the same as you do in the coming years? I think i need to start using it.

The quality of Japanese products is so good that people order from all over the world

It felt like my mom was writing this
She has so many “dead” stuff
Oh this was my first television, this was my first speaker
She never wants throw anything away so I understand why you kept that laptop for all these years

Passed through from Dreemport as a #dreemerforlife

While I like the idea of minimalism, in practice it feels very frightening. From childhood the concept for me has been best out of waste. And here in India nothing really goes to waste ( unless it is an absolutely dead macbook of course) So having things around to reuse gets us into a packrat situation. And with inflation being what it is here buying everything new everytime we need it is not a great idea. However without an organized mind all that ends up happening is a messy house :D I am so scared of checking out Miss Kondo's work :D

I love that typewriter in your signature. :)

Cheers from a fellow #dreemerforlife

My father raised my brother and I that way too. As children we would always be looking for useful things or items that could be fixed that other people were throwing away. My brother always found the best stuff!

Marie Kondo's book was actually what set me down this path of minimalism. Once I started getting rid of extra things it became addictive because it is such a freeing feeling. I've heard many times that our living environment is a physical manifestation of our mental state and I believe that because the less cluttered my living space is the more clearheaded I seem to become. I'll never own as few things as the man in the video but I put a lot more thought into purchases now and also think more about the quality of the things I"m buying.

Thanks!

This is a common theme I also experience in my own life, letting go of things we no longer need in the present is hard. But in many case, this are the things that stand in our way from truly experiencing the present. I think the minimalist lifestyle has a lot of merits, and we can pick the parts that resonate with us and implement them in our own lives.