I know they always say having a baby brings the couple together, well I don’t think that is the case because my new Little guy has been pulling the strings enough in my relationship, that I was almost saying goodbye to some good quality time with my partner for now.
Even to the most lovable couples, dating with a kid is tough except when you have help or family to hold onto the child from time to time but I promised myself to be spontaneous and deliberate about spending quality time with my partner no matter what.
Last weekend we decided to go on a date and bring the baby along. We just wanted to eat great food, enjoy a nice and different view and enjoy the vibes it would bring too. the plan was to visit somewhere quiet and kid-friendly too, so we decided that lunch in a hotel won’t be a bad idea.
I came prepared, I wanted to eat, smile, and laugh with my partner while we ate and relaxed and we did just that.
These are the things I did to ensure a cranky-free baby throughout the dinner.
I picked a corner table at the restaurant- even when the restaurant was almost empty I didn’t want to take any chances, just in case he becomes fuzzy it was better we sat there, and beside it gave me enough privacy to breastfeed.
I feed him a lot - I started feeding from Home, I made him a bowl of cereal before we left the house, and breastfed as a top-up, I planned to make him fall asleep all through the date but instead, He slept all through the drive there and woke up immediately after we arrived.
Kids!!!
I wasn’t discouraged either because I came with plenty of distractions, his teether, and noiseless toys, he was a calm boy till our food arrived at that point he wanted to jump on our meal but the distraction toys came in handy, sat him down and handed him his toys while hubby and I enjoyed our meal.
Finally, I relaxed, I told myself that I was sure I wasn’t the first mum to come have lunch with her baby nor will I be the last so even if my baby gets fussy during this lunch I am sure we will work something out besides there is nothing a change of scenery cannot do.
We ate and had a lovely time together.
For a minute, because of how busy he was with the toy, we almost forgot he was there, we got carried away with our conversation even after our meal, we just sat there and talked.
It was lovely
He finally got tired of the distractions, so we decided to take a walk, we visited the art sessions, it was beautiful looking at the amazing pieces, my baby was so calm feeding his eyes with the paintings.
Then we proceeded to the pool, we sat down and just relaxed looking at the water and in no time he was asleep.
My partner and I continued our conversation and even ordered a drink while we talked.
He slept all through till we were heading home.
After all my worries about going on dates with him, I gave it a try and it turned out beautiful, truly there is nothing deliberate planning and a dash of hope cannot handle.
To the mother's how do you keep your relationship alive and spicy with your partners especially when you have babies or toddlers to think of?
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