Think like a Viking: Part thirty six

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Few are bold in old age that are cowardly in childhood


Each Thursday I select a Viking quote, sometimes randomly but ofttimes based upon relevance or meaning to my life at that point in time. Despite these phrases being over a thousand years old I believe most can still offer value in modern society and I find it interesting to ponder, weigh and measure them. original im src


This week's Viking quote

Few are bold in old age that are cowardly in childhood - Völsunga saga

Have you ever tried to change someone else's habits? Yes I know, it's incredibly hard - nigh on impossible I'd say. The only person who can change a person's habits is generally the person themselves, yes there's exceptions, but in the main if a person doesn't want to change, they will not.

In looking at this week's quote I see a simple phrase suggesting that it is preferable to create good habits earlier in life as changing the bad ones we may have formed is often difficult and, if continued, not very productive. Essentially, one must seek to be their best version from the earliest possible moment, continue to do so over and over again, and the best possible future will follow from there.

Let's not get too caught up on the wording of the actual quote folks, the word cowardly. Instead let's look at how we could apply it to us in modern society.

I want you to think of all of the valuable personality traits, skills, attributes, thoughts and attitudes that could assist you to be a better person and live a better life. Got it? (This should be a long list.)

Now, think about all the bad ones.

Consider how the good ones help you push forward to a best-life scenario, keep you on-track towards your goals and ambitions. Now consider how the bad can inhibit that journey. Sure, we learn from adversity and tribulations, the bad things...but I'm not talking about those bad things, I'm talking about personality traits and habits like greed, hubris, laziness, selfishness, deceptiveness, underhandedness, dishonesty and so on. I'll give you an example.

Imagine a person cheating in school exams and assignments. Yes, they may get good grades but are they truly learning and gaining the knowledge that will carry them forward? No, they're deluding themselves. Carry that cheating, deceptive and lazy habit forward into adulthood and they'll probably end up finding it doesn't carryover, or serve, so well and that they ultimately fail.

Instead, say they do the study as a school kid, work hard for their success, take ownership and responsibility then carry those habits forward into adulthood; they'll find better results and a better feeling when success comes; they'll probably also be a better person to know, more genuine, trustworthy and dependable. It won't mean they succeed all the time of course, just that they possess some of the attributes that help them be a better person through positive and valuable habits.

You see, habits aren't always bad, they can be very good for us in that pursuit of our best selves and best life. If we nurture the good ones from a young age, or even from now, they'll tend to support our best endeavours and we'll usually live more fulfilled lives. It's never too late to implement good habits.

One of the great things about being human is that we have the ability to recognise good or bad behaviour and positive and negative actions and, whilst we each have a different concept of those things based on our own lives, intellect, age or situations, we have the power to see them and to make relevant changes to improve our lives moving forward; you know, release bad habits and replace them with good.

The quote talks about childhood but I believe it's never too late to release negative, bad or unproductive habits and replace them with positive, good and productive ones. Sure, changing ourselves and habits can be difficult however not changing ourselves could have catastrophic implications.


That's it for this week, a thousand year-old Viking quote suggesting we discard bad habits for good. Please feel free to disagree with my interpretation and add your own, tell me a story around this quote or topic or simply react to it and let me know what you think, how you see it, how it relates to you or someone you know.

Skol.


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@tipu curate

The only person who can change a person's habits is generally the person themselves

I keep telling this to SO many people. I started realizing this about a decade ago. No matter how much I try, no matter the amount of advice and info I provide, nothing.

So, I just let it be, leaving it all up to them, the world, fate, life, whatever you call it. Because they themselves are the only ones capable of bringing change to their habits and lifestyles. Hence, when the time is right, change surely will take place.

I agree with you completely. It's up to the individual to make the change. If the reason for doing so is compelling enough they will affect the change and if not, then not. Quite simple really.

Thanks for your great comment. I appreciate it.

Don't mention it brother. I thank you for these streaks of quality posts, reading em daily haha. 🥃☮️

Hi Galen.

I agree 100% with your dissection of this quote. For me it also means trying to instill the best habits, morals and ethics into Lory - how do you do that with a kid? It doesn't generally work telling them if they don't actually see it...it's by far the best to lead by example.

Perhaps I will try carve out some time in the next few days to do the exercise you suggest. Always good to shine a light on dark places and rattle the bee hive so to speak. People generally don't like having to do "shadow" work on themselves, nobody likes to admit their faults and flaws but it's the only way to improve them.

Have a lekker day.

Ciao

From what you've said in your posts I think you have done a good job with your daughter and will continue to do so, by leading by example.

I think it's good to revisit our behaviours and habits as it's easy for them to slip backwards or to acquire some that may not be as productive as others. Evaluation, strategize and redeploy is a better option than continuing habits that are unproductive and inhibiting.

Thanks for your comment. ✅

Leading by example. Exactly that. Living my life out in front of my children was one of the best ways to do this, for me anyway.

Raising children is like molding with clay, they are malleable when young and new and just like old clay, becomes less movable as it gets old. Best to start early, as you say so doing it the right way is the correct way for them.

This was a good one today! Thanks. Have a wonderful afternoon.

Leading by example is probably the best way to send the message as the children soak it in more easily, osmosis-style and the habits tend to form. It's how I learned some of the most valuable lessons from my parents. Still, finding better habits is something we should ever cease doing as there's always something more to learn.

Thanks for commenting.

Truth. I never stopped learning. It's the little things now that find their way into my life. The larger, broader scope of things I think I have a handle on, but, I am always open to learning. One is never too old. I think I am more accepting of taking advice from people now. I didn't reject it before, but, I can say there was a point in life where I knew enough that I didn't need to hear advice (on things I thought I knew) I look back and wonder how I could have ever been so arrogant. I'm glad that was only a short period of time.

My kids are always teaching me. :) I tell them I don't know how I ever managed my life without them... :)

It's always a good moment when one looks back and remembers the
bad old ways and the changes that were affected the carried forward. It's a very good reminder of the power of self-reflection and evaluation and the benefit of making positive change.

I felt that there was more to the quote but the more I dug into it, the more I realized that I was coming closer to your point. Still, I tried to bring out what I understood from it and how it portrayed in my vision, in a short post.

One of the points this quote tried to venture into was how time teaches us to become bold, something which we are reluctant to become at the very start, may it be for any reason, it be, but gradually those of us become bold, the ones who were once coward. This led to another focus similar to this, the opportunist, the ones who are eager to know or learn but were under bindings, are unable to break free when they are young but as they grow, the cage starts to disappear and they get to observe how reality is and chooses to be more direct, straight, not frightened anymore, more courageous and uptight.

Seeking knowledge and greater understanding certainly helps one's progression through life and can open up new opportunities and pathways. Thanks for your comment.

Hi @galenkp .

I agree with your expounding of the quote.

If I may add, there's is a scientific reason why habits formed in childhood are difficult to part with as adults.

You see, the childhood brain is still in development, it takes up until age 25 for the human brain to form fully.

So, in childhood, it is extremely easy to make impressions through habits, and certainly to erase those impressions. But as we grow older and get exposed to more information, the malleability of the human brain decreases more and more.

One book that helped me as an adult in forming positive habits is *Atomic Habits by James Clear...

It's a beautiful book everyone should read.

Well written post @galenkp.

I should be able to write like you in a fews years😁.

A child's brain being more malleable is certainly why they learn so easily or, at least, more easily than adults, generally speaking. These posts I write are not really scientific in nature though as I have no real knowledge in that area. Rather, it's just how I interpret the quote.

Thanka for your comment and book recommendation.

This applies to people and puppies. 🤣

Seriously, though, it's worth creating good habits from the start, and having parents and/or role models to help with that is so important. I'm doing my best with my kids. I know some kids don't have that, and compassion is needed as we go forth as human beings.

The quote talks about childhood but I believe it's never too late to release negative, bad or unproductive habits and replace them with positive, good and productive ones.

This makes me think of a concept I learned when studying yoga. When trying to change a habit, or a story you're telling yourself, you create a new track. Each time you practice the new habit, the new story, you deepen the track. Basically, it's like getting out of a negative rut and creating a positive trench to walk in. Hard work, but doable.

Glad I stopped by. You always have something worthwhile. :)

Parents have a responsibility to their kids and what they do, or don't do, will usually make a difference to them later in life. I don't have any, but like to think I'd set a good example if I did.

Getting out of that rut you mention, the rut of bad habits, can be incredibly difficult but if the reason to do so is compelling enough it gets a little easier.

Thanks for you nice comments which are greatly appreciated.

The quote talks about childhood but I believe it's never too late to release negative, bad or unproductive habits and replace them with positive, good and productive ones. Sure, changing ourselves and habits can be difficult however not changing ourselves could have catastrophic implications.

This part of your post really touched me. I want to add one more thing here. It will be very difficult to change the habits that we have acquired from childhood. First of all, if we have a bad habit that we want to change, we must understand the importance of doing it. This requires a really good level of education. The education I am talking about is not an education that can be obtained in school. I'm talking about educating the individual himself.

What I would like to add here is this: While we are raising children, we must pay close attention to the habits they acquire from an early age. We should do this work for them at the very beginning of the road so that they do not have to deal with changing themselves when they become adults in the future. I'm sure this change will be much easier.

I want to give an example. I have two little girls and they don't like to pack their things. They play with their toys and leave them alone. If I do not give them this training now, they may become individuals who do not do their own work or use their belongings in a messy manner. It will be much easier for me to stop these bad habits now than for them to quit this habit in the future.

I agree that it's best to provide some guidance early on to children so that they may learn good habits. As they get a little older they will the be able to learn by the examples older people set. The only problem is that they also have the chance to learn bad habits...So it's best to instill in them the ability to know the difference, not just the habits themselves.

you are absolutely right. i hope i can do that.