There are couples who even having a faithful, loyal and honest person by their side pay the consequences as if they were unfaithful, derived from insecurities and fears that makes them believe that they are being betrayed and maneuvered.
There may be two reasons: a trauma of a very deep wound not healed even that one that comes from childhood or that such insecurity is because they are projecting their hidden actions deep inside themselves.
I am one of those people who think that if you break any commitment with the other, then why are they hiding? I mean, they don't show their faces.
If you are faithful and loyal, it is not a problem for you to give security to the other by being totally open with your partner.
A couple that is capable of loving each other freely, and that is, being able to say things without fear to the other, is a couple that lasts over time.
The opposite to this, causes affective conflicts to increase more and more every day, the loss of the meaning of life is common sometimes in life in all of us, first we have to treat the disloyalty that causes the rupture of the relationship to improve our quality of life, and at the same time it is always healthy to seek psychotherapeutic help that helps us change destructive patterns.
In the event that you are living with another person and it makes you very unhappy, do yourself a great favor, if, to yourself, understand, that if a love does not add anything to us, does not make us happy, or nourishes us, then we are not together with someone, we are in the deepest loneliness.
Which is preferable..., unhappiness accompanied by "self-deception" or happy freedom? it is a difficult choice, where sometimes we forget our self-esteem.
There are no superficial loves.
What there are is superficial people saying that "I love you". And people in need of love, believing the false action behind this phrase.
So, it seems that from unconsciousness we live under self-deception.
The ability to choose beyond external guidelines (whether it is right or wrong, right or wrong) is what.that can empower us.
I am currently living a circumstance with an affection of my family nucleus, very close, in which this person being able to change the situation has not done so, this person has stopped blaming others and at the same time I have seen her thinking and asking myself, if she really changes or continues to live like this? Phew, it's interesting the position of my relative.
She says she feels liberated knowing that she recognizes that she has the.power of choice. It doesn't matter if it's love or manipulation. I could only say to him: "Take heart, you will get out of this."
I really get annoyed by some people's rigid postures. There comes a time when you understand that everything changes and nothing is forever...full stop.
By the way, my nephews dressed up as a bug and bug catcher last night to go to a Halloween party 🎃
Janitze 🌹
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with Canva
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Translation with |DeepL
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