When you grow up in a family like mine, 'I love you' is not something you heard a lot. So logically, it was not something I got to tell a lot either, early in my life, or often. Don't get me wrong, I felt loved all my life, and never felt any other way from my family, it's just that our love language is not saying those exact words, but showing love the other way, or through other messages.
This is why my first 'I love you' was with my first real love. I do remember it clearly, as he told me first, and it was in a funny way, but it's not for sharing. And then I said I loved him back. It was long ago, but not as early as it is for some people maybe, I was eighteen at the time.
Other times I probably said to friends, but not in direct way, rather 'well, what can I do when I love you', and similar. You can guess, my love language is not language, but rather little things that will show someone I think and care about them. And also gifts. I looooove to give gifts to people, when I know it's something they would love, or they want for a long time.
When it comes to relationship, I would say I changed my ways there the most. I do say 'I love you' more than I could imagine before, but still, I prefer to show my love in other ways, in this case, physical touch, as often hugs and kisses.
And here we come to the famous question, 'is love enough'. I don't think I would agree. As much as I would love that real life is like a movie, and all it takes it to have your heart skip when you see someone, have butterflies in your stomach and there you have it, a perfect life, it's not like that in reality. For a relationship to last as long as possible, of course, you need love first, but then you also need trust and understanding. I think you need to have trust in someone, but not to have their location and messages check daily. Because then it's not trust anymore, but parental control. So no matter how much trust is important, I don't think I would let someone follow my every step. Another thing that I would not be able to overcome is insulting. I think arguing is okay and normal from time to time, but I would not get over someone insulting me for any reason and anyhow.
Maybe love in real life wasn't ment to be as perfect as in a movies, but also remmeber, it for sure is not ment to hurt.
This is my entry for Ladies of Hive Community Contest #225.
Photos added are orginal and mine.
Thank you for reading my post^^
Love&Peace
